CHILDHOOD TRAUMA & HEALING

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Everyone's response to trauma, childhood or adult is different and healing will be individual.

I came home from high school to find my parents had moved and left no forwarding address. A friend's parents took me in until graduation then I enlisted in the Marine Corp.

I don't remember being traumatized as that bizarre behavior was typical. Someone else may not react similarly.


The Power of Positivity offers this observation https://www.powerofpositivity.com/childhood-trauma-healing/


Childhood trauma refers to a long-term damaging effect on your mind and body due to something psychologically or physically distressing as a child. It is a response born out of an inability to cope with harrowing and difficult circumstances. Many forms of trauma originate in youth. When not dealt with, these kinds of trauma can remain largely repressed and continue to affect your life in significant and painful ways. So, how can you overcome that? Here are four ways to start healing from childhood trauma for a positive future. 1. ACCEPT IT Many different healing stages begin with acceptance, and it’s an exceptionally positive step to take when you’re healing from childhood trauma. You cannot fight something that you refuse to admit is real, and you can’t recover from something that you won’t say is there. It’s a simple concept but a painful one to execute. Here are some tips for acceptance:

A lady in the forest

SEE REALITY

It’s easy to see things as you want to see them, not as they are. Trauma survivors often trick themselves with false ideas and realities of how the world is. Imagination and desire are powerful coping mechanisms, but while they can keep you safe for a while, they ultimately impede your ability to confront the truth about yourself and what happened to you. Don’t sugarcoat things – see them, and all their ugliness, for real.

NAME WHAT HAPPENED

Saying the truth out loud is a surprisingly powerful way to begin healing from trauma. It means you’re admitting in no uncertain terms that something happened to you and that you have a true, horrible, actual name for it. “I was abused by my parents.” “I was sexually assaulted by (insert person’s name).” “I lost my family in a natural disaster.” These statements are enormous and frightening, but they’re often the first step to full awareness. It would be best if you gave yourself the rude awakening first.

Kids of all races doing yoga

FOSTER AWARENESS

You must know yourself to accept what you feel. When you experience an emotional or trauma response, please note it and find its root causes. Allowing yourself to be aware of your feelings means you’re able to locate different problems, how they’re affecting your life, and where they may stem from, even if the process takes a while to hone.

UNDERSTAND THAT ACCEPTANCE DOESN’T MEAN PREFERENCE

The act of accepting something doesn’t mean you’re okay with it. Accepting something doesn’t mean you’re giving in to it – it means you’re getting that it did happen and that this is the truth, no matter how much you wish it weren’t. You don’t have to be happy about it. You have to understand and realize it. 2. LET YOURSELF FEEL IT One of the toughest but arguably most important parts of healing from childhood trauma is allowing yourself to feel and experience it and all the emotions that come with it. This exercise can be hard to do because no one wants to feel those horrible feelings. It’s part of why healing is such a painful and challenging process. It’s worth noting that entering this healing phase without support or professional assistance may not be a good idea. You can try to begin in small doses of opening yourself up to the feeling, basking in it, and then relaxing out of it – sort of like meditation in reverse. Here are some tips for allowing yourself to feel your childhood trauma to start healing from it:

SIT WITH THEM

When you begin to feel the emotions associated with your trauma, do not respond with extremes. Instead, stop, acknowledge the feelings, and then try to sit with them. Allow them to flow naturally without attempts to hide or alter them. Instead, observe them and pay attention to how your body responds. Allow it to do as it will. Cry, shout, punch a pillow, express your emotions naturally how you are urged to do so. When you feel you’re done with this process, bring yourself out of this and into a reflective state.

2 ladies eating a popsicle

LISTEN TO THEIR MESSAGES

Once you’ve expressed your emotions after sitting with them, your feelings have been allowed to say their piece, and it’s time for your logic to take over. Seek the wisdom in what you’ve felt. How can you connect your emotions to ones you’ve felt before? Can you find the roots of these feelings and how they affect you? What are these emotions trying to tell you? If it helps, you can use a medium like art or journaling to better work out these thoughts and find the messages in your emotions. Though you need the presence of mind to do this, you also can’t accomplish this task without letting yourself genuinely feel your trauma first.

BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF ABOUT YOUR STATE

How have you been surviving your trauma so far? Instead of waving away concerns, pay attention to them. Have you been repressing things? Have things been looking up for you, or in reality, are your emotional and mental states declining? Are your actions and goals being dictated by your past trauma? If so, is that really what you want? These hard-hitting quests can be painful to delve into, and they require you to be completely honest with

Girls and boys in a campfire on the bach

yourself, which can be tough. Still, if you don’t address it first, it will eventually come out, whether you want it to or not.

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