Teaching our boys.
“What can I do to shape my son into a respectful man—one who doesn’t assault women, most importantly, but who also doesn’t make lewd jokes, grab butts, mock victims, or generally treat women as if they’re inferior?”
“Aren’t the people best positioned to prevent sexual assaults the people who usually commit sexual assaults in the first place?” Melinda Wenner Moyer
HE WILL NOT CHANGE
A Women’s Resource Centre for which I volunteer my expertise told me, “Women don’t need to learn self-defense, society needs to change.”
A year later I was approached by the new director, a psychologist, who asked me to volunteer. I did, and was saddened to discover fifty percent of the group were teens, all of whom I knew.
These survivors had spent a year with weekly counselling sessions with a female staffer before their advocates deemed them ready to learn skills to prevent a occurrence.
At no time did the counselors discuss male society changing.
Boys who are raised to not show emotion can become violent adults. “Research suggests that it’s the men who’ve felt the need to suppress their emotions who are most likely to become violent adults.”
Strategy No. 1: “Teach our boys to be,” comfortable as possible experiencing and discussing emotions.
Strategy No. 2: Teach your kids to set and respect physical boundaries.
Strategy No. 3: “Teach our boys by,” modelling respectful behavior and regularly engage with your kids about what that means.
Families can watch age appropriate television dramas utilizing a teachable moment during a scene where women or girls are treated in a demeaning fashion.