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Women returning to abuser…no room at shelters.

“The National Center on Family Homelessness reports some 50 percent of homeless women cite domestic abuse as the reason they are living on the streets.” She was safe with her brother but chose to return so she wouldn’t lose graduation credits. “I had four credit hours left before finishing my bachelor’s degree,” Serenko says. She could go back to the same college as her abuser or transfer to another school and risk losing many of the credits she’d earned.” Why she went back. Read her story. She had two children … Continue reading

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Cheaters and how they become violent.

When their cheating is discovered, some partners forgive and hope for the best. Some get angry and want revenge…they cheat too. And some file for divorce. All three responses often ignite dormant violent tendencies in men resulting in domestic violence. Some men apologize and swear they will never cheat again. Profess their undying love for their partner, while subconsciously admitting to themselves they have no intention of being faithful. Lies, lies and more lies. Read how to break the cycle. Here are Kirk* and Frank*, two men who continually are … Continue reading

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RCMP Sgt. Karen Winthrop, women and teens role model

RCMP Sgt. Karen Winthrop “Santa Barbara Secrets” A Novel. Third in the “J” Team Series. RCMP Sgt. Karen Winthrop, sequestered to Canada’s Canadian Security Intelligence Service, CSIS, is investigating stolen radioactive material which brought down an American flight from Minneapolis to LAX. She has just left the White House where she was briefed by the head of the Secret Service and “J” Team Leader Jessica Fukishura. Secret Service Special Agent Jessica Fukishura from Toronto, Ontario Karen texted Tom Hortonn from the airport providing him with her flight number and arrival … Continue reading

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Escaping. 23 ways to document domestic abuse.

“23 Ways Survivors Can Collect Evidence of Domestic Abuse.” 1. Any written rules imposed by the abuser 2. Information about abuse of previous partners 3. Proof that you were being financially marginalized 4.Records proving you provided most of the child care 5. Personal journal of physical and nonphysical incidents 6. Calendar indicating days and frequency of abuse 7. Video recordings of arguments or conversations 8. Audio recordings of arguments or conversations 9. Photos or video of any injuries 10.Medical reports of your injuries or stress-related diagnosis 11.Medical reports of your … Continue reading

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“Sorry!” “Sorry!” “Sorry!” Women, enough. Stop saying, “Sorry!”

We are not referring to basic human politeness such as, “I’m sorry I’m late for our luncheon.” “It’s my fault I made him angry—I should be a better partner. He’s just stressed out right now.” STOP IT! You are not responsible for any one’s behavior but your own. “But repetitive, nearly constant apologies for every little thing—or, what Psychologist Paige Carambio, PsyD calls, “apologizing for existing”—can actually be an after-effect of trauma, a self-preservation technique survivors may think they still need to utilize in order to protect themselves.” “She says … Continue reading

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Decision to leave your abuser is made. Where is your money?

Money. Where is yours? You have decided to leave your abuser but for years he has controlled your joint account. Where are the account numbers or passwords to access your money. How can you obtain this an other information necessary for a fresh start? Domestic Shelters offers tips on money matters Please share, anonymously, any advice or tips for women seeking financial stability when they leave. Tips on how to obtain the necessary information.

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Lies! Lies and more Lies. How to break the Cycle of Abuse.

It’ll never happen again. He says he’s really sorry. It’s my fault I made him angry—I should be a better partner. He’s just stressed out right now. He’s only controlling because he loves me. Read Domestic Abuse’s take on the Deadly Cycle “The Cycle proposes that domestic violence starts with tension building in a relationship before an “explosion” occurs—the actual incident of abuse—followed by a “honeymoon phase” where the abuser is apologetic, even romantic, promising the abuse won’t happen again. Soon after, the tension starts building again and the cycle … Continue reading

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Dating violence. What parents think they know and what is really happening.

Parents, learn the language and communication devices/methods then start a dialog where you ask, listen and do not judge. Don’t be like this mother shown below, lecturing. You will be shut out. Among their findings: Teens and young adults think adults generally disrespect or distrust their dating relationships Youth said adults were “likely unaware or uninformed” about topics like technology and social media as they play a role in relationships, as well as the frequency and triviality of sex among teens. Teens said sex was “far less tied to emotions, … Continue reading

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Sociopaths. Are you living with one? Are you in danger? Key? They blame others for their failures.

One thing to note: While we tend to use the terms “sociopath” and “psychopath” interchangeably, they mean different things. Whereas most sociopaths are prone to impulsive behavior and often seen as disturbed or unhinged, a psychopath is cold and calculating, sometimes even charming. “I view [psychopathy] as the extreme end of the antisocial spectrum,” says Dr. Black, “because virtually all psychopaths are antisocial, but not all anti-socials have psychopathy.” Read Health.com analysis of sociopathology Lack of Empathy Difficult relationships Manipulative Deceitfulness Callousness Hostility Irresponsibility Impulsivity Risky Behavior View video explaining … Continue reading

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Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

“Your sister/best friend/coworker/neighbor discloses to you that he or she is having “relationship difficulties.” With a bit more digging, you come to learn these difficulties are actually domestic abuse—psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual — there may even be physical violence occurring. Your heart drops and your anger level rises. You jump into advice-giving mode: This is what you’re going to do now, you say, and you begin counseling your friend on how to leave their partner.” Domestic Shelters. Educate, Listen & Support, Reassure & Remind Read Sue Villilo, CHOICES for Victims … Continue reading

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