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Personal boundaries. How to determine yours, then set them.

“When was the last time you thought about your personal boundaries? They are the non-negotiable lines that our partner cannot cross in order for us to feel respected and safe in a relationship. Boundaries keep us intact, and we should know and express them no matter how new, or not new, a relationship is. Boundaries protect our personal goals, dreams, values, autonomy and self-worth. If you haven’t thought about where your own boundaries stand, there’s no better time than the present” Read how to set personal boundaries from Domestic Shelters … Continue reading

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British Columbia’s CFJC Television supporting sexual assault survivors with this interview

British Columbia’s CFJC supports sexual assault survivors with this interview and review of two of the “J” Team novels. Wyoming Secrets, 30,000 Secrets and the “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. Listen to singer Donna Summer explain her problem and solution. The novels’ inspiration develops through Rebecca, Elisabeth and Jessica who experience violence both in their professional and person lives. The agents’ physical and emotional responses to antagonists draw the reader to the protagonists’ techniques … Continue reading

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Barb’s Benches. Honoring the memory of women murdered by their partners.

This is a significant social position which we encourage everyone to share and promote. “In Nova Scotia, purple benches located in public places serve a dual role—they honor the memory of women who were murdered by their partners and they provide information so that people facing domestic violence know where to turn for help. “Known as Barb’s Benches, the colorful memorials were launched to help keep alive the memory of Barbara Baillie who was killed by her husband on Oct. 19, 1990. As the 25th anniversary of her murder approached, … Continue reading

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Sexual assault survivors and PTSD

Please read the article, share your input on the web post then share with friends and help eliminate rape culture. My sexual assault survival students undergo intensive counselling by women’s resource staff before they & the counselors begin defensive tactics training. Mary Dolen MA, RCC Registered Clinical Counsellor “70 percent of sexual assault victims experience moderate to severe distress, a larger percentage than for any other violent crime.” Life after rape. PTSD can, “manifest in physical ways, like chronic pain, intestinal problems, muscle cramps, or, as in Lucy’s case (below), … Continue reading

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Profile of an abuser. Is it possible to spot an abusive partner before you get involved?

“…some abusers grow up in households where domestic violence against a family member, such as their mother, was commonplace.” Profile of an abuser Domestic Shelters Profile of an Abuser/Batterer Jealousy (questioning her constantly about whereabouts, and jealous of time she spends away from him). Controlling behavior (I’ve had clients who’s victim couldn’t get a job, leave the house or bathe without his permission) Isolation (Makes partner move away from family and friends so that she depends on him solely for support.) Forces her to have sex against her will (I’ve … Continue reading

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Would you accept a drink from a stranger?

“I woke up 10 hours later naked in his tent,” she recalls of the 2014 incident. “I was definitely drugged.” “A study by the Sexual Assault and Partner Abuse Care Program at the Ottawa Hospital found that 26 per cent of sexual assault cases involving patients who attended the institute in 2013 occurred at mass gatherings. About 40 per cent of patients believed they were drugged and only 33 per cent said they knew the assailant.” Drinking with strangers is dangerous. “Jodie Ortega, a Vancouver-based advocate for survivors of sexual … Continue reading

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“30,000 Secrets” the first “J” Team Series’ sequel

Jessica, Rebecca and Elisabeth resolve many of their personal issues while working with Canada’s RCMP, the Secret Service and FBI to trace stolen radio active material from a Manitoba facility.

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Cheaters who lie & attempt to make it your fault.

Mary broke up with her boyfriend when he cheated on her. Years later she ran into him and he had just broken up with his third, since her, girlfriend. Why? You guessed it. Cheating, then lying about it is a form of abuse, particularly when the lying is accompanied by comments like these. “You’re overreacting. It wasn’t that bad. You’re just being emotional. That never happened—you’re imagining it.” Thanks to Domesticshelters.org, here is their link to explain the abusive behavior and what you can do to escape. “Gaslighting” McMahan remembers … Continue reading

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Abuse victims turned away from shelters, return to abusers.

We can make a difference in our communities by supporting Women’s Shelters to ensure they have adequate space and protection. Shelter staff should not have to go hat in hand to government begging for funding crumbs but be on the top of financial distribution lists for continual support. “In an anonymous survey on DomesticShelters.org, more than 40 percent of the 247 responders said they chose to return to their abuser when they were turned away from an emergency shelter because of a lack of space. “ “Having nowhere else to … Continue reading

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24 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Someone With an Abusive Partner

Motivate, Encourage and Support. “If the power is going out of your life or in somebody’s life around you because they don’t know if they can find their way out. Be that light for them and let your light shine before them.” Tyler Perry Motivate, encourage and support Are we guilty of these, thinking we are being supportive but in fact adding to her sorrow and pain? 1. Why don’t you just leave? 2. I’m sure it will pass. 3. I told you I didn’t like him. I always had … Continue reading

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