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Lies! Lies and more Lies. How to break the Cycle of Abuse.

It’ll never happen again. He says he’s really sorry. It’s my fault I made him angry—I should be a better partner. He’s just stressed out right now. He’s only controlling because he loves me. Read Domestic Abuse’s take on the Deadly Cycle “The Cycle proposes that domestic violence starts with tension building in a relationship before an “explosion” occurs—the actual incident of abuse—followed by a “honeymoon phase” where the abuser is apologetic, even romantic, promising the abuse won’t happen again. Soon after, the tension starts building again and the cycle … Continue reading

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Dating violence. What parents think they know and what is really happening.

Parents, learn the language and communication devices/methods then start a dialog where you ask, listen and do not judge. Don’t be like this mother shown below, lecturing. You will be shut out. Among their findings: Teens and young adults think adults generally disrespect or distrust their dating relationships Youth said adults were “likely unaware or uninformed” about topics like technology and social media as they play a role in relationships, as well as the frequency and triviality of sex among teens. Teens said sex was “far less tied to emotions, … Continue reading

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Sociopaths. Are you living with one? Are you in danger? Key? They blame others for their failures.

One thing to note: While we tend to use the terms “sociopath” and “psychopath” interchangeably, they mean different things. Whereas most sociopaths are prone to impulsive behavior and often seen as disturbed or unhinged, a psychopath is cold and calculating, sometimes even charming. “I view [psychopathy] as the extreme end of the antisocial spectrum,” says Dr. Black, “because virtually all psychopaths are antisocial, but not all anti-socials have psychopathy.” Read Health.com analysis of sociopathology Lack of Empathy Difficult relationships Manipulative Deceitfulness Callousness Hostility Irresponsibility Impulsivity Risky Behavior View video explaining … Continue reading

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Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

“Your sister/best friend/coworker/neighbor discloses to you that he or she is having “relationship difficulties.” With a bit more digging, you come to learn these difficulties are actually domestic abuse—psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual — there may even be physical violence occurring. Your heart drops and your anger level rises. You jump into advice-giving mode: This is what you’re going to do now, you say, and you begin counseling your friend on how to leave their partner.” Domestic Shelters. Educate, Listen & Support, Reassure & Remind Read Sue Villilo, CHOICES for Victims … Continue reading

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Honoring the women murdered at Ecole Polytechnique in Montreal

I trust I did the souls of the murdered women justice by portraying Jessica and her colleagues with strong and supportive characteristics, to propel women not to allow themselves to ever be placed in a powerless position. Collage courtesy of John Tory From “Wyoming Secrets”. “Jessica was a second-generation Japanese American Canadian whose parents were professionals in Toronto. Her dad Glenn was born and educated in California, taking his Doctorate-Ed.D. in education from the University of California at Berkeley, then a job at the University of Toronto where he rose … Continue reading

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Personal boundaries. How to determine yours, then set them.

“When was the last time you thought about your personal boundaries? They are the non-negotiable lines that our partner cannot cross in order for us to feel respected and safe in a relationship. Boundaries keep us intact, and we should know and express them no matter how new, or not new, a relationship is. Boundaries protect our personal goals, dreams, values, autonomy and self-worth. If you haven’t thought about where your own boundaries stand, there’s no better time than the present” Read how to set personal boundaries from Domestic Shelters … Continue reading

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British Columbia’s CFJC Television supporting sexual assault survivors with this interview

British Columbia’s CFJC supports sexual assault survivors with this interview and review of two of the “J” Team novels. Wyoming Secrets, 30,000 Secrets and the “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. Listen to singer Donna Summer explain her problem and solution. The novels’ inspiration develops through Rebecca, Elisabeth and Jessica who experience violence both in their professional and person lives. The agents’ physical and emotional responses to antagonists draw the reader to the protagonists’ techniques … Continue reading

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Barb’s Benches. Honoring the memory of women murdered by their partners.

This is a significant social position which we encourage everyone to share and promote. “In Nova Scotia, purple benches located in public places serve a dual role—they honor the memory of women who were murdered by their partners and they provide information so that people facing domestic violence know where to turn for help. “Known as Barb’s Benches, the colorful memorials were launched to help keep alive the memory of Barbara Baillie who was killed by her husband on Oct. 19, 1990. As the 25th anniversary of her murder approached, … Continue reading

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Sexual assault survivors and PTSD

Please read the article, share your input on the web post then share with friends and help eliminate rape culture. My sexual assault survival students undergo intensive counselling by women’s resource staff before they & the counselors begin defensive tactics training. Mary Dolen MA, RCC Registered Clinical Counsellor “70 percent of sexual assault victims experience moderate to severe distress, a larger percentage than for any other violent crime.” Life after rape. PTSD can, “manifest in physical ways, like chronic pain, intestinal problems, muscle cramps, or, as in Lucy’s case (below), … Continue reading

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Profile of an abuser. Is it possible to spot an abusive partner before you get involved?

“…some abusers grow up in households where domestic violence against a family member, such as their mother, was commonplace.” Profile of an abuser Domestic Shelters Profile of an Abuser/Batterer Jealousy (questioning her constantly about whereabouts, and jealous of time she spends away from him). Controlling behavior (I’ve had clients who’s victim couldn’t get a job, leave the house or bathe without his permission) Isolation (Makes partner move away from family and friends so that she depends on him solely for support.) Forces her to have sex against her will (I’ve … Continue reading

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