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Assailants look for “Vics”, those of us who walk as though preoccupied. Carry yourself erect, shoulders back, head up and look at people you pass. Eye contact or lack of it tells an assailant you want to avoid confrontation and he’ll pick up on that. You don’t need to lock onto his face or stare, look, catch his eye, then look up or off to the side, not down (a passive message) is all that is necessary to get the message across that you’re aware of his presence and that you
The longer she spent with him, and particularly after they married in 2016, four years after meeting, the more his behavior became intimidating. He made comments about what she ate. He picked fights when she went out with her friends. He threw her things around their house. He berated her while out shopping. One night, she says, he even threatened to kill her. “It’s such a drip effect, each event gets a bit worse and a bit worse,” Curtis says, speaking softly from her home in Essex, southeast England. “And then someone has control over you.”
In 2011, 19-year-old Maple Batalia was brutally murdered in public by a jealous ex-boyfriend. Her friend Benisha Aujla says it was only in hindsight that she saw the typical warning signs of a violent relationship.
Aujla decided to share those signs with RCMP Cpl. Samara Bilmer so they could help others see them before it’s too late.
“Abuse can be more subtle than just a punch in the face,” says Bilmer, who works in the Serious Crimes Unit in Chilliwack, B.C.
Read about what Bilmer says are the most common red flags of a violent relationship.
“Rescuing your relationship means rescuing you. Until you begin to live with dignity, respect, and emotional integrity, you will not have that quality and level of interaction with anyone else.” Phil McGraw In “Santa Barbara Secrets” Dr. Penelope Barker and Rebecca Simpson explore their new relationship, asking the tough questions regarding emotional commitment, their past heterosexual relationships and what brought them together. The third in the “J” Team series is available at Amazon, your library and local women’s resource center. If you are involved in a relationship issue, “Santa Barbara … Continue reading
Does an abuser you know fit one of these categories?
The above title was told to thirty female defensive tactics students in a gym. The comment was prompted by a student declaring that she was having difficulty accepting the philosophy of, “Attacking your Attacker”. The woman making the Title statement continued with, “He wasn’t always this way but he was having difficulties at work and wouldn’t talk about them. He would drink and become violent. I left him two weeks ago and obtained a protection order thanks to the help and guidance of the Women’s Resource Centre. The problem is … Continue reading
Merry Xmas from The JTeam Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from the “J” Team. We hope you are enjoying our novels and are ready for “Santa Barbara Secrets” debuting in the New Year. Rebecca, Elisabeth, Jessica, Jason, Jackson and Jonathan Someday at Christmas. Andra and Stevie share a message. Can we all work toward this goal which has been elusive for centuries? Listen to Andra and Stevie Holidays & booze bring out the assailant in some relatives. Please reach out to any woman who is surviving violence in her life … Continue reading
“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.” This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”. Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to deescalate but also to have an emergency button to call security. I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training … Continue reading
Google this, “Retaliate against sexual assailant” What did you find? Any articles or links to what happens to sexual assailants if not caught by police? Any mention of the survivor’s relatives putting her assailant in the hospital? None. Is retaliation happening and we are not hearing about it? Is retaliation excusable? Is it necessary? Read below and note that out of 1,000 assailants, only seven are prosecuted. Perpetrators of Sexual Violence Often Have Criminal Histories Perpetrators of rape are often serial criminals. Out of every 1,000 suspected rape perpetrators: Referred … Continue reading
From the Yukon, Brenda Butterworth-Carr is the Commander of British Columbia’s “E” Division, the largest in Canada. “In a crisis situation, victims of sexualized assault need to know what their options are, whether they want to report it or not,” says Collyn Lovelace, co-ordinator of the Yukon Women’s Coalition. “Knowing what to expect is a huge part of making an informed choice.” “The videos walk victims through the step-by-step process of reporting domestic violence and sexual assault to police. They also explain what the court process is, including what the … Continue reading