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Men, what steps do you take to prevent being sexually assaulted?

This is often the reply, “Nothing. I don’t think about it.” Here is what the majority of women do…DAILY. The following is an excerpt from Michael Feniello. Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences. “I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you … Continue reading

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Retaliating against a sexual assailants. What would you do?

Google this, “Retaliate against sexual assailant” What did you find? Any articles or links to what happens to sexual assailants if not caught by police? Any mention of the survivor’s relatives putting her assailant in the hospital? None. Is retaliation happening and we are not hearing about it? Is retaliation excusable? Is it necessary? Read below and note that out of 1,000 assailants, only seven are prosecuted. Perpetrators of Sexual Violence Often Have Criminal Histories Perpetrators of rape are often serial criminals. Out of every 1,000 suspected rape perpetrators: Referred … Continue reading

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Take a stand against violence.

“What could I do? There wasn’t anything I could do? I couldn’t stand up against him!” Actually, you could, can and should have. I have had several battered women seek shelter in our home and to a man, their abuser backs off when they are confronted. I have been told it is because I am male. That might be true in some, but not all cases. It is the thought that their despicable behavior is now known to another and s/he will call the police. Here is an incident shared … Continue reading

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Incels (involuntary celibate) and their dystopian culture.

Incels is a social sub-culture who are misogynists who feel deeply wronged. “…men who call themselves “incels,” and the broader internet sphere of men who cluster their identities around having been done wrong by women, are not interested in mere sexual companionship. Their loneliness, angst, and the feeling of lost power are a pitiable cover story to a problem with white male subcultures that reaches back several years and into some of the darkest corners of the internet. What began as unchecked toxic culture in fringe websites and forums has … Continue reading

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Canada’s RCMP offer advice and video support for survivors.

From the Yukon, Brenda Butterworth-Carr is the Commander of British Columbia’s “E” Division, the largest in Canada. “In a crisis situation, victims of sexualized assault need to know what their options are, whether they want to report it or not,” says Collyn Lovelace, co-ordinator of the Yukon Women’s Coalition. “Knowing what to expect is a huge part of making an informed choice.” “The videos walk victims through the step-by-step process of reporting domestic violence and sexual assault to police. They also explain what the court process is, including what the … Continue reading

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Relationships. Don’t allow yours to degenerate to this.

“Two North Carolina children got ahold of a gun and fatally shot a man police said was assaulting and strangling their mother. During the attack, Steven Kelley, 46, said he was going to cut the throat of Chandra Nierman, his girlfriend, and kill everyone in the home, the Rutherford County Sheriff’s Office said. Police said Nierman’s 12-year-old son obtained a gun, and her 15-year-old daughter used it to shoot Kelley in the chest twice. Police were called to the home just after midnight on August 8 and found Kelley already … Continue reading

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Crappy childhood? Didn’t we all?

There are crappy childhoods, then there are traumatic ones. We need to move on. You were raised by bigots, but you got over it. Your parents were/are racists. You are not. Write them out of your life and move on. You were physically abused as a child. Now you are an adult. Don’t perpetuate the behavior with your own children or those of others and move on. “A lot of people do have tragic childhoods. But you know what? Get over it.” Phil McGraw But what if you can’t? What … Continue reading

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Women returning to abuser…no room at shelters.

“The National Center on Family Homelessness reports some 50 percent of homeless women cite domestic abuse as the reason they are living on the streets.” She was safe with her brother but chose to return so she wouldn’t lose graduation credits. “I had four credit hours left before finishing my bachelor’s degree,” Serenko says. She could go back to the same college as her abuser or transfer to another school and risk losing many of the credits she’d earned.” Why she went back. Read her story. She had two children … Continue reading

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Cheaters and how they become violent.

When their cheating is discovered, some partners forgive and hope for the best. Some get angry and want revenge…they cheat too. And some file for divorce. All three responses often ignite dormant violent tendencies in men resulting in domestic violence. Some men apologize and swear they will never cheat again. Profess their undying love for their partner, while subconsciously admitting to themselves they have no intention of being faithful. Lies, lies and more lies. Read how to break the cycle. Here are Kirk* and Frank*, two men who continually are … Continue reading

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Online dating and ignoring RED flags.

“Kate” was six months out of a 15 year marriage. Kate was 34. She thought it was time to meet someone new. She was right…and wrong. “I thought, ‘Oh, it’ll be fun to try online dating,’” she remembers. “She says he was nice, at first, but red flags popped up almost immediately, things that she pushed aside, hoping she could help him through. He had just gotten out of a relationship with a woman who was a heroin addict. She had left him with their two young children, a 2-year-old … Continue reading

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