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Men, what steps do you take to prevent being sexually assaulted?

This is often the reply, “Nothing. I don’t think about it.” Here is what the majority of women do…DAILY. The following is an excerpt from Michael Feniello. Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences. “I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you … Continue reading

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Teach our boys to be respectful men.

Teaching our boys. “What can I do to shape my son into a respectful man—one who doesn’t assault women, most importantly, but who also doesn’t make lewd jokes, grab butts, mock victims, or generally treat women as if they’re inferior?” How do I teach my son to treat girls with respect? “Aren’t the people best positioned to prevent sexual assaults the people who usually commit sexual assaults in the first place?” Melinda Wenner Moyer HE WILL NOT CHANGE A Women’s Resource Centre for which I volunteer my expertise told me, … Continue reading

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Take a stand against violence.

“What could I do? There wasn’t anything I could do? I couldn’t stand up against him!” Actually, you could, can and should have. I have had several battered women seek shelter in our home and to a man, their abuser backs off when they are confronted. I have been told it is because I am male. That might be true in some, but not all cases. It is the thought that their despicable behavior is now known to another and s/he will call the police. Here is an incident shared … Continue reading

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Controlling men and how to regain your life.

Contolling men😬 Far too many women live with this terror daily n fail to acquire the means to leave. “Bad Moms” portrays women who shed that baggage. Please share with every woman you know. If she is not affected, she may know a woman who is. Video. Three women regain control of their lives. “Fed up, she joins forces with two other over-stressed moms on a quest to liberate themselves from conventional responsibilities – going on a wild, un-mom-like binge of long overdue freedom, fun and self-indulgence – putting them … Continue reading

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Women returning to abuser…no room at shelters.

“The National Center on Family Homelessness reports some 50 percent of homeless women cite domestic abuse as the reason they are living on the streets.” She was safe with her brother but chose to return so she wouldn’t lose graduation credits. “I had four credit hours left before finishing my bachelor’s degree,” Serenko says. She could go back to the same college as her abuser or transfer to another school and risk losing many of the credits she’d earned.” Why she went back. Read her story. She had two children … Continue reading

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Male aggression. Controlling it…female style with defensive skills.

Excerpt from “Wyoming Secrets.” Female defensive skills. Penelope and Rebecca are at a dance club with their girlfriends, enjoying a girls’ night out. “While eating, two guys came over and asked them to dance. Between mouthfuls, Rebecca said, “Thanks fellas, but no, this is a girl’s night out, maybe some other time.” The men persisted, trying to coax at least one of the women to join them on the dance floor. The foursome’s refusal seemed to fuel the-would-be suitors and they kept on and on until finally Rebecca stood up. … Continue reading

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Decision to leave your abuser is made. Where is your money?

Money. Where is yours? You have decided to leave your abuser but for years he has controlled your joint account. Where are the account numbers or passwords to access your money. How can you obtain this an other information necessary for a fresh start? Domestic Shelters offers tips on money matters Please share, anonymously, any advice or tips for women seeking financial stability when they leave. Tips on how to obtain the necessary information.

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Surviving Valentine’s Day.

Survive Valentine’s Day. Love yourself. Treat yourself. Honor your contribution to the world. Here’s how. If you are just out of an abusive relationship or have been recuperating for some time, February 14 can be stressful, creating anxiety over what could have been and what you don’t have, a healthy relationship. “For those who have lived through abuse, Valentine’s Day can be a triggering holiday. After all, it feels like there are nothing but happy, smiling couples abound on this day, holding hands and celebrating their seemingly perfect relationships.” Domestic … Continue reading

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Money! Don’t stay because of it. Leave & be free with it.

“…start by accepting responsibility for where you are and then make some changes. These changes to your life are not the end of your life. They are alterations that in the long run, will give you a better relationship to money and more financial freedom.” “We attach our entire life, our ego, our social status and our existence to money. If we have money we are successful, we lead a fun and desirable life and have material things that make us worthy. We fear losing money over everything else; we … Continue reading

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Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

“Your sister/best friend/coworker/neighbor discloses to you that he or she is having “relationship difficulties.” With a bit more digging, you come to learn these difficulties are actually domestic abuse—psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual — there may even be physical violence occurring. Your heart drops and your anger level rises. You jump into advice-giving mode: This is what you’re going to do now, you say, and you begin counseling your friend on how to leave their partner.” Domestic Shelters. Educate, Listen & Support, Reassure & Remind Read Sue Villilo, CHOICES for Victims … Continue reading

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