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RCMP and Vancouver PD. One reactive. One proactive approach to sexual assault.

Law Enforcement is reactive. That is a fact of life. Women, DO NOT allow yourself to be part of this reaction to a sexual or domestic assault. Learn what you need to know to prevent it from happening. Survivors have historically been seen by law enforcement as being part of their own assault. Below, the RCMP is assuring survivors, that is no longer the case with the Force. There have been remarkable changes since Commissioner Brenda Lecki took office. This is but one. “Sexual assault is a devastating crime that … Continue reading

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Crappy childhood? Didn’t we all?

There are crappy childhoods, then there are traumatic ones. We need to move on. You were raised by bigots, but you got over it. Your parents were/are racists. You are not. Write them out of your life and move on. You were physically abused as a child. Now you are an adult. Don’t perpetuate the behavior with your own children or those of others and move on. “A lot of people do have tragic childhoods. But you know what? Get over it.” Phil McGraw But what if you can’t? What … Continue reading

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Social Responsibility. We all need to prevent domestic violence.

“Society has role to play in trying to prevent domestic violence. We do not have to allow this to happen. “Years worth of evidence suggests perpetrators of domestic violence exhibit patterns that make it possible to predict when someone is in harm’s way. Being aware of warning signs, experts said, could help prevent tragedies such as the one that unfolded in Ajax, Ont., earlier this week.” “… community members rather than justice or violence-prevention workers are often best positioned to take meaningful, potentially life-saving action.” Do not be apprehensive to … Continue reading

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Parents, you can be the instrument of change.

Teaching our children by example and providing role models sets the tone for the rest of their lives. Allowing your children to question, respectfully, and challenge everything, even what you teach and say, will develop their interpersonal skills so they won’t be taken advantage of. You don’t want to hear that your son was harassed on the job (think RCMP) or your daughter was groped by a family member or in the work place and you knew you had failed to teach them how to combat such behavior. I encouraged … Continue reading

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Dating violence. What parents think they know and what is really happening.

Parents, learn the language and communication devices/methods then start a dialog where you ask, listen and do not judge. Don’t be like this mother shown below, lecturing. You will be shut out. Among their findings: Teens and young adults think adults generally disrespect or distrust their dating relationships Youth said adults were “likely unaware or uninformed” about topics like technology and social media as they play a role in relationships, as well as the frequency and triviality of sex among teens. Teens said sex was “far less tied to emotions, … Continue reading

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Sexual violence. Men, here’s what you can do to stop it.

“VANCOUVER — Stephanie Hale remembers jumping up and down and crying tears of joy when she received her acceptance letter from the University of British Columbia. Now, she wishes she had pursued her degree anywhere else.” “The university has been under fire for its response to sexual assault allegations since 2015, when a group of women came forward to say the school had dragged its heels on complaints about a male PhD student. Glynnis Kirchmeier, who alleged she witnessed misconduct by the man, filed a human-rights complaint the following year.” … Continue reading

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“Love and abuse are not at all mutually exclusive.”*

* Holly Richmond, Ph.D., a somatic psychologist and adjunct professor at John F. Kennedy University. Don’t most divorce couples acknowledge that their marriage had some good times, but the bad finally outranked the good? “What they hang onto is those good times. The bad times are usually a smaller percentage of the relationship than the good.” So it can be easy to rationalize staying, waiting for the good times and hoping the bad times won’t happen again. Dr. Richmond Richmond points out that the issue is about you, the abuse … Continue reading

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British Columbia’s CFJC Television supporting sexual assault survivors with this interview

British Columbia’s CFJC supports sexual assault survivors with this interview and review of two of the “J” Team novels. Wyoming Secrets, 30,000 Secrets and the “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. Listen to singer Donna Summer explain her problem and solution. The novels’ inspiration develops through Rebecca, Elisabeth and Jessica who experience violence both in their professional and person lives. The agents’ physical and emotional responses to antagonists draw the reader to the protagonists’ techniques … Continue reading

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Confidence. Skills. Mind-Set. No Fear

“… (he) chose to make unwanted advances, sexual innuendos and other inappropriate comments.” Cheryl Chapman in “30,000 Secrets”. Skills. No Fear “…(He) rushed her from behind, pushing her up against the bulkhead (wall) and began groping her, running his hand up and down her bare leg. Expecting Chapman to respond as most women would with aggression to escape, he met a very calm female who quietly encouraged him, whispering in his ear that his touch was enjoyable.” Chapman had finished her speech to the G-8 representatives and was relaxing in … Continue reading

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Finding a Shelter, Domestic Abuse Survivor’s Guide

Our appreciation to Domesticshelters.org for this helpful information. Finding a shelter DO NOT WAIT until your situation disintegrates into this: “Seeking shelter can be a temporary move, to ensure your immediate safety and the safety of your children, or it can be part of a permanent plan to leave your abuser. Shelter may be the first step, followed by transitional, and then, hopefully, new and permanent housing.” As far as money goes, shelters are not hotels and will never charge you. Executive Director Alden Henrickson of the Rape and Abuse … Continue reading

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