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Recovering after a controlling relationship. Advice & Support.

“It takes a long time to recover from an abusive and controlling relationship. Being monitored, isolated, stalked and abused leave their mark.” Read Domestic Shelter’s advice on recovery after a controlling relationship. Reclaiming activities and friends previously blocked. Expressing yourself, free from criticism or violence. “It is natural for survivors to feel fear and regret from time to time. Looking ahead will give them hope. It is usually best for survivors to separate themselves as much as possible from the controlling person and his contacts, so they cannot be controlled … Continue reading

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Personal boundaries. How to determine yours, then set them.

“When was the last time you thought about your personal boundaries? They are the non-negotiable lines that our partner cannot cross in order for us to feel respected and safe in a relationship. Boundaries keep us intact, and we should know and express them no matter how new, or not new, a relationship is. Boundaries protect our personal goals, dreams, values, autonomy and self-worth. If you haven’t thought about where your own boundaries stand, there’s no better time than the present” Read how to set personal boundaries from Domestic Shelters … Continue reading

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British Columbia’s CFJC Television supporting sexual assault survivors with this interview

British Columbia’s CFJC supports sexual assault survivors with this interview and review of two of the “J” Team novels. Wyoming Secrets, 30,000 Secrets and the “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. Listen to singer Donna Summer explain her problem and solution. The novels’ inspiration develops through Rebecca, Elisabeth and Jessica who experience violence both in their professional and person lives. The agents’ physical and emotional responses to antagonists draw the reader to the protagonists’ techniques … Continue reading

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Barb’s Benches. Honoring the memory of women murdered by their partners.

This is a significant social position which we encourage everyone to share and promote. “In Nova Scotia, purple benches located in public places serve a dual role—they honor the memory of women who were murdered by their partners and they provide information so that people facing domestic violence know where to turn for help. “Known as Barb’s Benches, the colorful memorials were launched to help keep alive the memory of Barbara Baillie who was killed by her husband on Oct. 19, 1990. As the 25th anniversary of her murder approached, … Continue reading

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“30,000 Secrets” the first “J” Team Series’ sequel

Jessica, Rebecca and Elisabeth resolve many of their personal issues while working with Canada’s RCMP, the Secret Service and FBI to trace stolen radio active material from a Manitoba facility.

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Alcohol and abuse.

“While alcohol can’t take the entirety of the blame for an abuser’s behavior, Bennett says it’s also incorrect to say they’re not connected at all, either. “You can find plenty of examples of individuals who have been sober for decades and are still violent.” Having sought safety through the Women’s Shelters, counselled on leaving strategies and trained in defensive tactics by me, many angry, drunk husbands/partners blame me for their spouse’s departure. They are incapable of taking responsibility for their behavior and yet, even when inebriated know they will lose … Continue reading

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Psychopaths and sociopaths. Are you living with one?

Shahida Arabi’s explains the four ways toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors in relationships to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions. Here are 6 more of the 20 diversionary tactics toxic people use to silence and degrade you. Do you see these traits in your relationship? Do you engage in any of these behaviors? 1. Deliberately misrepresenting your thoughts and feelings to the point of absurdity. 2. Nitpicking and moving the goal posts. 3. … Continue reading

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LEAVE AN ABUSER. Go with a survival plan & resources.

Amanda at Domestic Shelters advises. “Creating a safety plan before leaving is an instrumental step toward staying safe. As Marylouise Kelley, director, Division of Family Violence Prevention and Service told DomesticShelters.org last September, “If you’re in the midst of a crisis it’s really hard to think straight. Putting a plan in place ahead of time, knowing where things are and having children understand what steps they can take to be safe—those are all things that are best done in advance.” How to formulate a plan “After he was served with … Continue reading

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Domestic Violence Solution? Throw him out!

It may seem simple enough but it isn’t. Many women suffer at the hands of violent men who threaten to kill them if they leave. Some succeed and some kill their children in the process. Help is available in your community. Resources Women’s Resource Centers offer Safe Houses where a woman and her children’s basic needs are met and assistance is offered for starting over. Sometimes it means leaving friends, family and any joint financial investments behind. WRC counselors say the primary reason abused women return to their violator is … Continue reading

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