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Don’t be THAT GUY. Consent isn’t difficult to understand.

“Canadian law has a broad definition of sexual assault. It doesn’t only include sexual intercourse but also unwanted sexual grabbing, kissing, fondling, and other sexualized activities. And the responsibility for getting consent is, by law, on the person initiating the activity.” Read Hoffington Post on what consent looks like “Ultimately, consent is about communication, verbal and physical. Just taking the time to read someone’s signals, or even to check in verbally and ask if everything is good, is helpful. The burden shouldn’t be placed on the partner to say “No,” … Continue reading

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Parents, you can be the instrument of change.

Teaching our children by example and providing role models sets the tone for the rest of their lives. Allowing your children to question, respectfully, and challenge everything, even what you teach and say, will develop their interpersonal skills so they won’t be taken advantage of. You don’t want to hear that your son was harassed on the job (think RCMP) or your daughter was groped by a family member or in the work place and you knew you had failed to teach them how to combat such behavior. I encouraged … Continue reading

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Dating violence. What parents think they know and what is really happening.

Parents, learn the language and communication devices/methods then start a dialog where you ask, listen and do not judge. Don’t be like this mother shown below, lecturing. You will be shut out. Among their findings: Teens and young adults think adults generally disrespect or distrust their dating relationships Youth said adults were “likely unaware or uninformed” about topics like technology and social media as they play a role in relationships, as well as the frequency and triviality of sex among teens. Teens said sex was “far less tied to emotions, … Continue reading

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Sociopaths. Are you living with one? Are you in danger? Key? They blame others for their failures.

One thing to note: While we tend to use the terms “sociopath” and “psychopath” interchangeably, they mean different things. Whereas most sociopaths are prone to impulsive behavior and often seen as disturbed or unhinged, a psychopath is cold and calculating, sometimes even charming. “I view [psychopathy] as the extreme end of the antisocial spectrum,” says Dr. Black, “because virtually all psychopaths are antisocial, but not all anti-socials have psychopathy.” Read Health.com analysis of sociopathology Lack of Empathy Difficult relationships Manipulative Deceitfulness Callousness Hostility Irresponsibility Impulsivity Risky Behavior View video explaining … Continue reading

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Kamloops, British Columbia YWCA Women’s shelter thanks you.

Thank you from me personally and from the women receiving shelter and protection at the Kamloops YWCA Women’s Shelter Kamloops YWCA. My December royalty cheque for “Wyoming Secrets” and “30,000 Secrets” went to them to assist in their operation in offering safety and regrouping to sexual and domestic assault survivors. “Kamloops YWCA @KamloopsY December 1st the kids at the Y Women’s Shelter wake up to a Christmas house and this year Charlie Brown and the Peanuts Gang have shown up! Holidays are a stressful time of year please donate and … Continue reading

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Sexual assaults on university campuses.

University of British Columbia Sexual Assault Need to talk? Support is available. You can drop by during centre hours or schedule an appointment with us via phone (604-827-5180) and email (http://amssasc.ca/contact-us/)UBC Sexual Assault Support contacts. We can help with the following: Sexual assault Sexual abuse in childhood Intimate partner violence or relationship violence Stalking Harassment Isolation and hazing Self care and coping strategies Boundaries and assertiveness Safety planning University of British Columbia Sexual Assault Support Centre We shouldn’t need a definition of sexual assault but a quick perusal of social … Continue reading

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Sexual violence. Men, here’s what you can do to stop it.

“VANCOUVER — Stephanie Hale remembers jumping up and down and crying tears of joy when she received her acceptance letter from the University of British Columbia. Now, she wishes she had pursued her degree anywhere else.” “The university has been under fire for its response to sexual assault allegations since 2015, when a group of women came forward to say the school had dragged its heels on complaints about a male PhD student. Glynnis Kirchmeier, who alleged she witnessed misconduct by the man, filed a human-rights complaint the following year.” … Continue reading

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“Good gals against the contemporary ills of the world? 30,000 Secrets totally rocks.”

“If you like a team of good gals against the contemporary ills of the world then this is the book for you.” Jessica Fukishura Elisabeth Peltowski “Jonathan McCormick has just released his second book in the J-Team series. It is called 30,000 Secrets. It totally rocks. McCormick’s books (the first being Wyoming Secrets) take the side of women as heroes/heroines and enables women with strategies and tactics to help themselves with self-defense maneuvers. A black belt in a number of self-defense arts, McCormick donates a portion of his books to … Continue reading

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Profile of an abuser. Is it possible to spot an abusive partner before you get involved?

“…some abusers grow up in households where domestic violence against a family member, such as their mother, was commonplace.” Profile of an abuser Domestic Shelters Profile of an Abuser/Batterer Jealousy (questioning her constantly about whereabouts, and jealous of time she spends away from him). Controlling behavior (I’ve had clients who’s victim couldn’t get a job, leave the house or bathe without his permission) Isolation (Makes partner move away from family and friends so that she depends on him solely for support.) Forces her to have sex against her will (I’ve … Continue reading

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Would you accept a drink from a stranger?

“I woke up 10 hours later naked in his tent,” she recalls of the 2014 incident. “I was definitely drugged.” “A study by the Sexual Assault and Partner Abuse Care Program at the Ottawa Hospital found that 26 per cent of sexual assault cases involving patients who attended the institute in 2013 occurred at mass gatherings. About 40 per cent of patients believed they were drugged and only 33 per cent said they knew the assailant.” Drinking with strangers is dangerous. “Jodie Ortega, a Vancouver-based advocate for survivors of sexual … Continue reading

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