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Domestic violence and substance abuse are linked. Learn how.

How Domestic Violence and Substance Abuse Are Connected “Domestic violence and substance abuse are intimately linked and often occur simultaneously. They are related much in the same way that co-occurring mental disorders like depression and anxiety are linked to increased drug use and vice versa. Often one is a symptom of the other, and in many cases, they go hand in hand. Yet while they’re intertwined, one doesn’t always precede the other. Abusing drugs doesn’t always spur aggressors to physical or emotional violence, and being a victim of abuse doesn’t … Continue reading

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Canada’s Supreme Court recognizes, “Battered Woman Syndrome.”

Battered Woman Syndrome “Why doesn’t she just leave?” is often spoken about women who stay in an abusive relationship. Easier said than done. I have helped women exit such conditions and in every case the men were vicious and evil human beings. They knew only one thing and it wasn’t court orders or police presence. Women tried to flee only to be tracked down and assaulted again. Here is the sad solution to which some survivors use and it is a legitimate defense in Canada. Read of these landmark cases. … Continue reading

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Escaping. 23 ways to document domestic abuse.

“23 Ways Survivors Can Collect Evidence of Domestic Abuse.” 1. Any written rules imposed by the abuser 2. Information about abuse of previous partners 3. Proof that you were being financially marginalized 4.Records proving you provided most of the child care 5. Personal journal of physical and nonphysical incidents 6. Calendar indicating days and frequency of abuse 7. Video recordings of arguments or conversations 8. Audio recordings of arguments or conversations 9. Photos or video of any injuries 10.Medical reports of your injuries or stress-related diagnosis 11.Medical reports of your … Continue reading

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Money! Don’t stay because of it. Leave & be free with it.

“…start by accepting responsibility for where you are and then make some changes. These changes to your life are not the end of your life. They are alterations that in the long run, will give you a better relationship to money and more financial freedom.” “We attach our entire life, our ego, our social status and our existence to money. If we have money we are successful, we lead a fun and desirable life and have material things that make us worthy. We fear losing money over everything else; we … Continue reading

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“I’m so sorry. I will never hit you again. Believe me.”

Should you? Would you? Statistics are not on your side if you believe he will change. “31 percent of those convicted on a domestic violence charge were arrested again within a year of being released, according to the Center for Court Innovation, and 44 percent were arrested again within two years.” Read Domestic Shelters’ how past behaviors predict the future. “The chances are high that an abuser will be abusive again, and any past history of domestic violence should be a huge red flag,” says Gretchen Shaw, NCADV associate director. … Continue reading

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Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

“Your sister/best friend/coworker/neighbor discloses to you that he or she is having “relationship difficulties.” With a bit more digging, you come to learn these difficulties are actually domestic abuse—psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual — there may even be physical violence occurring. Your heart drops and your anger level rises. You jump into advice-giving mode: This is what you’re going to do now, you say, and you begin counseling your friend on how to leave their partner.” Domestic Shelters. Educate, Listen & Support, Reassure & Remind Read Sue Villilo, CHOICES for Victims … Continue reading

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Honoring the women murdered at Ecole Polytechnique in Montreal

I trust I did the souls of the murdered women justice by portraying Jessica and her colleagues with strong and supportive characteristics, to propel women not to allow themselves to ever be placed in a powerless position. Collage courtesy of John Tory From “Wyoming Secrets”. “Jessica was a second-generation Japanese American Canadian whose parents were professionals in Toronto. Her dad Glenn was born and educated in California, taking his Doctorate-Ed.D. in education from the University of California at Berkeley, then a job at the University of Toronto where he rose … Continue reading

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“What the hell do you know..” Lady Gaga. Until it happens to you.

“What the hell do you know until it happens to you?” Lady Gaga BELIEVE ME YOU WILL HEAR ME I AM WORTHY I LOVE MYSELF ONE IN FIVE COLLEGE WOMEN WILL BE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED THIS YEAR UNLESS SOMETHING CHANGES If you want to be part of making a social change and move us all forward in equality and decency, view Lady Gaga’s video and share your reaction below. Lady Gaga explains, “What the hell do you know..” in her video Thanks to Lady Gaga and The Hunting Ground productions for … Continue reading

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“Love and abuse are not at all mutually exclusive.”*

* Holly Richmond, Ph.D., a somatic psychologist and adjunct professor at John F. Kennedy University. Don’t most divorce couples acknowledge that their marriage had some good times, but the bad finally outranked the good? “What they hang onto is those good times. The bad times are usually a smaller percentage of the relationship than the good.” So it can be easy to rationalize staying, waiting for the good times and hoping the bad times won’t happen again. Dr. Richmond Richmond points out that the issue is about you, the abuse … Continue reading

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“Good gals against the contemporary ills of the world? 30,000 Secrets totally rocks.”

“If you like a team of good gals against the contemporary ills of the world then this is the book for you.” Jessica Fukishura Elisabeth Peltowski “Jonathan McCormick has just released his second book in the J-Team series. It is called 30,000 Secrets. It totally rocks. McCormick’s books (the first being Wyoming Secrets) take the side of women as heroes/heroines and enables women with strategies and tactics to help themselves with self-defense maneuvers. A black belt in a number of self-defense arts, McCormick donates a portion of his books to … Continue reading

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