Men, what steps do you take to prevent women from being sexually assaulted?

This is often the reply, “Nothing. I don’t think about it.”

Here is what the majority of women do…DAILY.

The following is an excerpt from Michael Feniello.

Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences.

“I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other.

Then I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted?

At first there is a kind of awkward silence as the men try to figure out if they’ve been asked a trick question. The silence gives way to a smattering of nervous laughter. Occasionally, a young a guy will raise his hand and say, ‘I stay out of prison.’ This is typically followed by another moment of laughter, before someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, ‘Nothing. I don’t think about it.’

Then I ask the women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands. As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine.

1.Hold my keys as a potential weapon.
2.Look in the back seat of the car before getting in.
3.Carry a cell phone. Don’t go jogging at night.
4.Lock all the windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights.
5.Be careful not to drink too much.
6.Don’t put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured.
7.Own a big dog.
8.Carry Mace or pepper spray.
9.Have an unlisted phone number.
10.Have a man’s voice on my answering machine.
11.Park in well-lit areas.
12.Don’t use parking garages.
13.Don’t get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men.
13.Vary my route home from work.
14.Watch what I wear.
15.Don’t use highway rest areas.
16.Use a home alarm system.
17.Don’t wear headphones when jogging.
18.Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime.
19.Don’t take a first-floor apartment.
20.Go out in groups.
21.Own a firearm.
22.Meet men on first dates in public places.
23.Make sure to have a car or cab fare.
24. Don’t make eye contact with men on the street.
25.Make assertive eye contact with men on the street.”

Men, if you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

Our appreciation to Northern Virginia Community College Nova Cares

Read, Taking a Stand against Violence

Read, Women, can you defend yourself?

Read, How you can be part of the solution

About lazeejjs

Jonathan McCormick holds a Black Belt in Combat Martial Arts. He is a U.S Marine (Inactive), trained with famed CIA operative Rex Applegate and Ultimate Fighter Champion Royce Gracie and was the director of the Institute of Defense Tactics. He is a former member of the American Society of Law Enforcement Trainers and worked with members of various law enforcement agencies in the areas of suspect control and officer safety. He has written for law enforcement magazines BlueLine ( and Twenty-Four-Seven and has been a guest writer for the Vancouver Province. “Wyoming Secrets”, “30,000 Secrets”, “Santa Barbara Secrets” and The “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. View the Series
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1 Response to Men, what steps do you take to prevent women from being sexually assaulted?

  1. I agree with Mr. Feniello and men haven’t a clue. During sensitivity training in law enforcement most men think it is a joke when the trainer puts his hand on a cop’s butt. We women can assure men it is not a joke and we get pissed when men take it as such.
    Men, open your fucking eyes and realize women do not live the same lifestyle as you. I perform every one of the above routines daily.

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