Male aggression. Controlling it…female style with defensive skills.

Excerpt from “Wyoming Secrets.” Female defensive skills.

Penelope and Rebecca are at a dance club with their girlfriends, enjoying a girls’ night out.

Women Line Dancing

“While eating, two guys came over and asked them to dance. Between mouthfuls, Rebecca said, “Thanks fellas, but no, this is a girl’s night out, maybe some other time.”

The men persisted, trying to coax at least one of the women to join them on the dance floor. The foursome’s refusal seemed to fuel the-would-be suitors and they kept on and on until finally Rebecca stood up. All six feet, one hundred and fifty pounds.

“Look gentlemen, what part of ‘No’, don’t you understand?” she asserted. “We’ve tried to be nice but you’re pissing me off. Leave us alone or we’ll call the manager.”

“Okay, Okay, bitch. We’re just trying to have fun. Jake here said you guys looked like fun girls. Boy, is he fucked,” said the bigger of the two as they turned and left.

All three other women looked at Rebecca with raised eyebrows. It was Pen who broke the silence. “What was that all about, any of you guys know them?”

“Not us,” said Bethany.

Moments later she waved to the trio to get to the dance floor just as the players started with Sugarland’s Something More, the song to which women across north America dance and celebrate their freedom and self- proclaimed destiny. The band’s lead female singer had Sugarland’s Jennifer Nettles’ southern twangy voice and started the set waving her arms and stomping to the beat. Every woman, including Cassandra, got on the dance floor and did three sets of Nettle’s inspirational number…the guys wisely choosing to remain seated and to their credit, applauding as the dancers left the floor.

The women split off as they exited the bar with Bethany and Sabrina turning left and Pen and Rebecca heading straight out. They stopped by the dually and were chatting, laughing about the good time they had and planning the morning when the two guys from the bar came around from behind a canopied truck next to Pen’s.

Mind set is, "I will kick your ass."

Mind set is, “I will kick your ass.”

“Well, well, Jake, we’re in luck, these girls are just waiting for us so we can have the dance we didn’t get inside.”

“I don’t think so boys. It’s late and we have to get going. Thanks again for the offer,” said Rebecca.

“No, not late at all girls, we really are gonna have that dance, right Jake?”

As the talker spoke to Jake, he reached for Rebecca and grabbed her left shoulder, gripping her blouse tightly.

Read how Rebecca responds to this act of aggression and how you can learn to do likewise, which will build your confidence and self-esteem.

Read how Rebecca, Penelope, Elisabeth and Jessica deal with male aggression.

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About lazeejjs

Jonathan McCormick holds a Black Belt in Combat Martial Arts. He is a U.S Marine (Inactive), trained with famed CIA operative Rex Applegate and Ultimate Fighter Champion Royce Gracie and was the director of the Institute of Defense Tactics. He is a former member of the American Society of Law Enforcement Trainers and worked with members of various law enforcement agencies in the areas of suspect control and officer safety. He has written for law enforcement magazines BlueLine ( and Twenty-Four-Seven and has been a guest writer for the Vancouver Province. “Wyoming Secrets”, “30,000 Secrets”, “Santa Barbara Secrets” and The “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. View the Series
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