* Holly Richmond, Ph.D., a somatic psychologist and adjunct professor at John F. Kennedy University.
Don’t most divorce couples acknowledge that their marriage had some good times, but the bad finally outranked the good?
“What they hang onto is those good times. The bad times are usually a smaller percentage of the relationship than the good.” So it can be easy to rationalize staying, waiting for the good times and hoping the bad times won’t happen again.
Richmond points out that the issue is about you, the abuse recipient. “Start by asking how much you love yourself. “Having greater awareness is important,” Richmond says. “Acknowledge it is very hard to leave. But ask yourself, ‘Am I more important than this? Are my children more important?’ Hopefully those answers come back as yes.”
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“If you do decide to leave, distance may be the best remedy for love. Sure, absence makes the heart grow fonder in certain situations. But absence can also offer clarity and help you see there is life for you beyond your abuser.”
Our thanks to Domestic Shelters and Dr. Richmond
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