“He sat on my chest with his knees on my arms and beat my face with his fists.”

The above title was told to thirty female defensive tactics students in a gym. The comment was prompted by a student declaring that she was having difficulty accepting the philosophy of, “Attacking your Attacker”.

The woman making the Title statement continued with, “He wasn’t always this way but he was having difficulties at work and wouldn’t talk about them. He would drink and become violent. I left him two weeks ago and obtained a protection order thanks to the help and guidance of the Women’s Resource Centre.

The problem is the court order was useless. He comes by my house late at night, sits in his car and blows the horn. He is gone by the time police arrive.”

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/escaping-violence/more-states-considering-extreme-risk-protection-orders

“As it stands, women are 16 times more likely to be killed with guns in the U.S. than in other developed countries, and more than half of all women killed with guns are murdered by intimate partners or family members.” Domestic Shelters

Know your rights and be aware of your state’s statutes. If a Canadian woman files a complaint against her partner or anyone making threats, police will arrive immediately and seize all firearms of the threatener.

“Standard protection orders do not always require the perpetrator to relinquish firearms. According to Sam Levy, counsel for Everytown, 30 states plus the District of Columbia prohibit firearm possession by people subject to domestic violence restraining orders (DVROs), though only 19 states and D.C. require abusers to turn in any guns in their possession.” Domestic Shelters

Several weeks after the Title statement, my student entered the gym jumping up and down like she just won a title fight. She explained, “I got the son-of-a-bitch! I got him. He will never control me again. I was in the grocery store last night and seeing me, he strutted up, all arrogant like he was. I took my stance and I knew, man, I knew he could sense the difference in me. I was ready to kick his ass and he could detect it.

As he approached, I said nothing. I maintained my stance and watched him walk by. As he did, he said, “I can shop here too you know. You don’t own this place.”

I frkin loved it. Now, lets get on with the training ladies.”

There is a song where the lyrics include, “Trust in God, but lock your doors at night.” Translated, “Believe in the ideal, but live in the reality”.

About lazeejjs

Jonathan McCormick holds a Black Belt in Combat Martial Arts. He is a U.S Marine (Inactive), trained with famed CIA operative Rex Applegate and Ultimate Fighter Champion Royce Gracie and was the director of the Institute of Defense Tactics. He is a former member of the American Society of Law Enforcement Trainers and worked with members of various law enforcement agencies in the areas of suspect control and officer safety. He has written for law enforcement magazines BlueLine (www.blueline.ca) and Twenty-Four-Seven and has been a guest writer for the Vancouver Province. “Wyoming Secrets”, “30,000 Secrets”, “Santa Barbara Secrets” and The “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. View the Series
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2 Responses to “He sat on my chest with his knees on my arms and beat my face with his fists.”

  1. This posts points to the very reason women should learn personal safety skills.
    I recently heard several women chatting about various aspects of society that annoyed them, “Why do we have to check food labels? Companies should be honest.” In pisses me off that I always have to watch out for the crazy drivers. Why can’t they take them off the streets?” “What is wrong with some men that they feel they can objectify us?”

    Women should learn self defense for the very reason the above situations will never change.

  2. I believe this is the key to this post:

    She explained, “I got the son-of-a-bitch! I got him. He will never control me again. I was in the grocery store last night and seeing me, he strutted up, all arrogant like he was. I took my stance and I knew, man, I knew he could sense the difference in me. I was ready to kick his ass and he could detect it.

    As he approached, I said nothing. I maintained my stance and watched him walk by. As he did, he said, “I can shop here too you know. You don’t own this place.”

    I frkin loved it. Now, lets get on with the training ladies.”

    I encourage everyone to share this story, you never know whom it might help.

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