The above title was told to thirty female defensive tactics students in a gym. The comment was prompted by a student declaring that she was having difficulty accepting the philosophy of, “Attacking your Attacker”.
The woman making the Title statement continued with, “He wasn’t always this way but he was having difficulties at work and wouldn’t talk about them. He would drink and become violent. I left him two weeks ago and obtained a protection order thanks to the help and guidance of the Women’s Resource Centre.
The problem is the court order was useless. He comes by my house late at night, sits in his car and blows the horn. He is gone by the time police arrive.”
“As it stands, women are 16 times more likely to be killed with guns in the U.S. than in other developed countries, and more than half of all women killed with guns are murdered by intimate partners or family members.” Domestic Shelters
Know your rights and be aware of your state’s statutes. If a Canadian woman files a complaint against her partner or anyone making threats, police will arrive immediately and seize all firearms of the threatener.
“Standard protection orders do not always require the perpetrator to relinquish firearms. According to Sam Levy, counsel for Everytown, 30 states plus the District of Columbia prohibit firearm possession by people subject to domestic violence restraining orders (DVROs), though only 19 states and D.C. require abusers to turn in any guns in their possession.” Domestic Shelters
Several weeks after the Title statement, my student entered the gym jumping up and down like she just won a title fight. She explained, “I got the son-of-a-bitch! I got him. He will never control me again. I was in the grocery store last night and seeing me, he strutted up, all arrogant like he was. I took my stance and I knew, man, I knew he could sense the difference in me. I was ready to kick his ass and he could detect it.
As he approached, I said nothing. I maintained my stance and watched him walk by. As he did, he said, “I can shop here too you know. You don’t own this place.”
I frkin loved it. Now, lets get on with the training ladies.”
There is a song where the lyrics include, “Trust in God, but lock your doors at night.” Translated, “Believe in the ideal, but live in the reality”.