“I think women are scared of feeling powerful and strong and brave sometimes. There’s nothing wrong with being afraid. It’s not the absence of fear, it’s overcoming it and sometimes you just have to blast through and have faith.” Emma Watson
“Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult.”
Charlotte Whitton (March 8, 1896 – January 25, 1975) Feminist and mayor of Ottawa.
“Am I worth the effort to learn to protect myself?” “Can I be aggressive and attack my attacker?” If the answer to these queries is “Yes”, then you have accomplished a great deal.
Assailants look for “Vics”, those of us who walk as though preoccupied, often reading our phone or listening to it with ear buds.
Carry yourself erect, shoulders back, head up and look at people you pass. Eye contact or lack of it tells an assailant you want to avoid confrontation and he’ll pick up on that. You don’t need to lock onto his face or stare. Look, catch his eye, then look up or off to the side, not down (a passive message) is all that is necessary to get the message across that you’re aware of his presence and that you’re in charge.
If a stranger stops you in the street and asks directions, ignore them and quickly move on. This simple and charitable act is often a ruse for assailants. If someone pulls up in a car while you are walking and asks directions, give them if you wish, but be aware of anyone approaching from behind who could shove you toward the car and don’t approach the car. Better yet, tell them you are new and not familiar with the area.
These preventive measures are easy and simple to adopt. You’ll become more aware and increase your appreciation of your environment. Carry bear spray, it is readily available in sporting goods and hardware stores. It comes in small, easily carried containers. Keep it in your pocket, not your handbag.
If you are confronted by someone who is obviously bent on causing you harm, you’ve already decided you’ll take aggressive action. You will feel an adrenaline rush which is normal. Don’t dismiss this feeling but use it in the form of anger that this person would have the audacity to do you harm. As he approaches, turn your body slightly to affect a left foot forward and rear foot slightly behind and your weight balanced. You have controlled anger. You are emitting an aura that can’t says, I can not be intimidated. Remember, your primary concern must be your mind set…that you can and will do whatever is necessary to prevent being a victim.
Put both of your hands up, palms facing outwards and yell, “Stop!” If he continues toward you, spray him directly in the eyes then strike those eyes and throat with your fist, knuckles extended then using your right leg, knee him in the groin continually until he is down.
The key to regaining control of your life and alleviating the Fear is to decide that you are worth every effort to be in command and that you’ll do whatever is necessary to anyone who attempts to do you physical harm.