Attitude and Mind Set

“I’ve never met a situation where I don’t have a choice in the matter”

Attitude and Mind Set.

Elizabeth McCord responding to a comment that she doesn’t have a choice.

Thanks to CBS for the video clip

We always have a choice and we decide whether we want to please parents, teachers, partners, colleagues…or ourselves.

Too often we choose one or more of the former and seldom the latter.

Doing so is how we find ourselves with an emotional overload.

McCord is hired as Secretary of State for her experience as a CIA operative, PhD and her position as being apolitical. Russel attempts to silence her. Elizabeth goes around him and is successful.

In an epilogue, Russel says, “You best learn now that I make a better friend than foe.” McCord replies, “Back at you Russel.”

Strong women.

“Strong women are special people who make big changes in this world. They have a vision and don’t stop until their dreams become reality. To them, life is too short to shrink down into a lesser version of themselves. They rise up and meet themselves so they can become the person they were meant to be. A strong woman will shake this world to its core and make a permanent imprint on the universe.”

Read the traits of a strong women.







Strong women are special people who make big changes in this world. They have a vision and don’t stop until their dreams become reality. To them, life is too short to shrink down into a lesser version of themselves. They rise up and meet themselves so they can become the person they were meant to be. A strong woman will shake this world to its core and make a permanent imprint on the universe.

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A medical mystery written by a retired female veterinarian.


“The next bioterrorism threat is not making the news. It is coming silently, irreversibly, from a place no one is watching. Montana veterinarian Jacklin Steele has stumbled on a problem with more questions than answers. All over the country, young dogs are dying-of old age. Jack discovers the dogs are not dying from disease. They are dying by design. Before long, people around her begin to perish under questionable circumstances. Jack soon realizes danger is closing in as she approaches the truth. But Jack has a secret of her own. One that haunts her and has devastated her family. Seeking the truth could cost Jack her life. Looking the other way could cost everything. Dr. Jack Steele is on a collision course with The Canis Project.”

“Write about what you know”. Royal Roads University’s Les Wiseman

And D.T. did with perfection. The plot develops around DNA being altered by unscrupulous researchers for their nefarious objectives.

Dr. Jack discovers progeria in young dogs. Her research reveals the condition is widespread across the country.

Rylie’s veterinarian experience and scientific knowledge is woven discreetly into Dr. Jack’s efforts to discover the dogs’ premature deaths. Jacklin’s tenacity leads her on a dangerous journey as she closes in on the Canis Project.

“D. T. Rylie is a retired veterinarian. Born and raised in Alaska, she attended the University of Alaska. After a stint on Kodiak Island, the author headed south for veterinary school in Washington State. Following graduation, she trekked steadily northward via Idaho and Montana, eventually living off-grid in rural British Columbia.

As a youth, D.T. Rylie spent summers as a horse wrangler and worked her way through college as a zookeeper. She taught high school biology and English and worked in the mental health field prior to enrolling in veterinary school. During vet school, she learned to fly small planes and worked with assistance dogs and therapy horses.

She has been a dog trainer, a sled dog musher and a raptor rehabilitator. She worked as a volunteer veterinarian after Hurricane Katrina and performed surgeries at free clinics in Baja, Mexico. She has served as a trail vet on sled dog races in several US states and in Canada.”

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Angry people. How to respond.

“You are a real bitch, you know that?”

“Thank you.”

Gloria Steinem’s reply if and when you are called a bitch.

“Gloria a Life” on PBS.

During Q n A a young woman said, “I’ve been told from a very young age that I am too strong, too assertive, too direct. You have to soften your approach and not be a bitch all the time.”

Ms. Steinem offered her advice and the young woman replied, “The next time I’m called a bitch. I will say, Thank You,” with a huge smile and a round of applause from the primarily female audience.

The Power of Positivity offers the following:
When you’re dealing with mean people, it is important to stay positive. Whether it’s a stranger, a co-worker, spouse, or any other person in your life, knowing what to say is important. You don’t want to be rude in return, as it could only make the situation worse. Plus, it could irreparably damage a relationship that is important to you. It’s important that you don’t let people be mean to you, though, no matter who they are. By speaking up and coming back with a quick response, you’ll let them know that the behavior isn’t acceptable. If you have a person in your life who tends to be rude at certain times, remember these comebacks to use next time. These comebacks could stop their behavior on the spot, and they could help them be nicer in the future, too.

Disagreeable people sometimes don’t realize they are being rude. When it comes naturally to them, it may be useful to point it out. Then, they will likely think about how they are speaking to you or what they are saying. This way, they know how they are making you feel. Plus, they’ll know that you are trying to still be nice and positively interact with them. 

If you say this, they’ll start thinking about why you think they are having a bad day. They’ll realize that the way they are speaking is giving you a bad vibe. Sometimes a simple comment like this is the perfect comeback. The person you say it to may start speaking more nicely when it is pointed out to them. Another way this comeback could work is that it could make the person believe that you said it because you are worried. This could soften their personality a little when they are communicating with you.

3. WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVE FOR ASKING THAT? Sometimes people ask rude questions just to make you uncomfortable. They may want to embarrass you in front of others or they just want to hurt your feelings. When you are in this position, ask the person what their motive is. By turning it around and asking them this question, you’ll likely get your point across. They’ll know that you are not interested in discussing it. Plus, if others can hear the conversation, it could shame the person who asked. Even rude people don’t want to be called out in front of others. 

Even if you don’t agree with what was said, saying that you will consider it should normally do the trick. This way, the unfriendly person understands that you don’t want to talk about it and will hopefully stop. Then, you can forget it ever happened or you can take some time to consider it later. Keep in mind that most rude people say things that aren’t true and have a goal to hurt you. If you choose to consider what they said, don’t take it too literally. If you find that there was some truth to what was said, you can make a change. On the other hand, if there wasn’t any truth in it, just move on and forget it. Then, the next time that person brings it up again you can answer honestly. You would simply tell them that you considered it already and you don’t want to talk about it again. 

Sometimes, you just have to be blunt. If you’ve tried reasoning with the person and tried other comebacks, it may be best to end the conversation. It isn’t as rude as ignoring them, but you’re letting them know that you aren’t going to be talking anymore. There is no use in arguing or going back and forth, so end the conversation and move on. 
This is another way of ending the conversation. As you’re ending the conversation or walking away from them, a positive statement is the way to go. They can’t be angry at you for telling them to have a nice day. Plus, you’ll be able to walk away as a better person. 
If someone makes a rude comment about you, just thank them. While you aren’t appreciative of their rudeness, it’ll let them know that you heard them. When you don’t react in the negative way that they were likely hoping for, they’ll be disappointed. Most people won’t keep trying to get under your skin if they see that it isn’t working. So, when you give this simple reaction, they may let the conversation go. 
When someone is spiteful, it could be because something difficult is going on in their life. For this reason, reminding yourself that they could be having a bad day may help. If they cross a line, however, it’s important to speak up and let them know. Let them know that you are trying to be understanding, but that you are struggling with their rudeness.
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Thank you Power of Positivity
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Taking a Bite Out of Crime

Crime prevention begins with you, me and the community.

Do you ever ask yourself why you don’t have the power to make decisions which could change your life? Often the solution is viewing a Hollywood adaptation of an extreme case of convictions. Watch these seniors’ reaction to an attempted robbery.

Don’t scoff at seniors defending themselves. I have taught groups of seniors, numerous with mobility challenges and to a person they learned and demonstrated skills they use to keep themselves safe. The lessons raised their personal safety awareness and gave them confidence in being able to control their own environment.

Teenagers learning to protect themselves.

Frank messages from law enforcement delivered by McGruff the Crime Dog.

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Brighten your day with Jazz.

Jazz Aficionados.

Retired Secret Service Agent Jackson Pennington plays Lester Young at Marc Stucki‘s Steak-Seafood & Jazz fine dining restaurant in Santa Barbara, California in “Vancouver Secrets” debuting in February 2020.

When not jamming with a quartet at Stucki’s Pennington is investigating money laundering in British Columbia and California with his fellow “J” Team Investigators.

Read more of Jackson Pennington‘s remarkable saxophone talent in “Barkley Sound Secrets”.…/barkley-sound-secrets/

You may recognize friends or relatives portraying themselves in this thriller of British Columbia’s cocaine entrepreneurships.

In this album, Lester is jamming with Montreal’s jazz king Oscar Peterson.

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These women may appear exceptional but the reality is any woman can achieve a similar skill level. Success in 90% Mind Set. My experience teaching sexual assault survival students has been their motivation is exceptionally high as is their success rate.

Our thanks to Female Fitness Motivation


The strong woman knows when to push her luck and when to fold. She knows that life requires us to push ourselves if we want to grow and learn; staying stuck in fear will only breed complacency. She takes risks in order to become better-rounded and test her limitations. This woman knows that a lot of our boundaries can be crossed if we jump the mental hurdles first.

As kids, we believe we can do anything because our parents and teachers tell us we can. We don’t have any fear because the world’s programming hasn’t affected us yet. If we fall down and get hurt as a child, we don’t fixate on the event and allow it to grow into a fear. We simply face our fear over and over until we have learned to master it. Kids remain in the present moment because they have open minds. They want to absorb everything life can teach them.

Then, as we grow up, we start to put up walls and tell ourselves we can’t do certain things. We form an image of ourselves in our heads that becomes our identity. After a while, we become fixed. We don’t believe we can bend and mold ourselves into something new. However, the strong woman breaks this cycle often. She pushes herself to do new things so that her identity and self-image don’t solidify. She doesn’t allow fear to control her because she knows that she can’t learn unless she’s in a calm, confident state of mind.

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Are we masochists?

Do we gain pleasure from the pain and humiliation from sadists?

Of course not.

Why then do we engage in social media discussions with those whose pleasure is derived from hurting others?

Why not just block them and move on with our lives?

We will never convince them the morality of equal pay, of racial equality/justice, or the world benefits of the Olympics or the joy of extending a helping hand to others.

Photo credit Nathan Dumlao

“Let us not seek…justice…by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred. We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force.” Martin Luther King Jr. 1963

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

Education. I participated in the development of Canadian Social Studies texts and the ignorance of many of the developers who were prepared to accept unauthenticated data was appalling.

Listen to Michael Holding’s comments on the issue and where education has failed and how we can rectify.

Michael is a legend in the field of Cricket.

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Rape dismissed because of body language

Saanich, British Columbia

“Maybe the police officer is right to say that in the current legal system we have, it won’t matter that she was sexually assaulted. We have multiple players in the system that are maybe making rational conclusions based on our structurally flawed system.”

The Saanich police constable in charge of Ashley’s case concluded the file on April 9, 2019. In that file, the officer writes that Ashley was “never forced to do anything she had not agreed to by way of body language.”

“And he said if I didn’t fight back, and I was conscious enough to [fight back], then it didn’t count. He said there would be no chance on it going to court because they would look at me as an under-age teenager who was just trying to fit in and be cool.”

Read the full article below

Warning: Story contains details of sexual assault.

A young Saanich woman says she was left feeling disheartened and blamed after she told local police she had been sexually assaulted.

Ashley, 19, who is using a pseudonym to protect her identity, waited more than a year to go to the Saanich Police Department (SPD). She wanted to wait until she was 18 and could report without having her parents find out about the assault.

The incident occurred at a small basement party near Maple Bay in October 2017, where the then 16-year-old got drunk for the first time. Police documents released to Ashley and shared with Black Press Media state that Ashley and a young man were making out – something she was comfortable with initially.

But when they moved to a blow-up air mattress, Ashley says the man assaulted her, performing oral sex on her, followed by penetration. Both by her own account and police reports, Ashley said she didn’t resist physically, but said ‘no’ more than once.

READ ALSO: Stories of sexual assault at B.C. tree planting camps ‘shocking but not surprising:’ advocate

“[Ashley] felt very uncomfortable with this evening, understands that as a 16-year-old at the time, she was very intoxicated and confused about the whole affair with [name retracted],” reads the police report.

The Saanich police constable in charge of Ashley’s case concluded the file on April 9, 2019. In that file, the officer writes that Ashley was “never forced to do anything she had not agreed to by way of body language.”

He wrote that the threshold for a sexual assault charge wasn’t satisfied based on the evidence gathered.

According to Ashley, the officer told her that it didn’t matter how many times she had said ‘no’ because body language was another form of communication.

“And he said if I didn’t fight back, and I was conscious enough to [fight back], then it didn’t count. He said there would be no chance on it going to court because they would look at me as an under-age teenager who was just trying to fit in and be cool.”

She said the constable told her he hoped that she put herself in ‘better situations in the future.’

The constable spoke to the suspect, who offered to make an in-person apology. Ashley didn’t want to hear it. She felt emotionally defeated by the process.

Ashley went to the media after reading about an October 2019 report from the Office of the Police Complaint Commissioner (OPCC), which revealed a Saanich police officer was suspended for 20 days after counselling an alleged sexual assault victim not to report the incident to police.

“I do understand it’s a huge problem. No one gets convicted or actually gets charged because, despite how much evidence you have, the criminal court is so poorly set up … and the police aren’t making that any better, any easier. It’s so frustrating because [police] are the first step.”

Since then, Ashley said the constable on her file issued an apology to her through a liaison officer with the Victoria Sexual Assault Centre, where she receives counselling.

“It definitely did impact my mental health,” she says. “I almost took my life because of it.”

READ ALSO: Victoria Sexual Assault Centre remains open for survivors through COVID-19 pandemic

Rebecca Johnson, a law professor at the University of Victoria, says body language isn’t a legal dealbreaker, as evidenced by the 1992 Supreme Court of Canada case R v. Ewanchuk, which upheld that there was no defence of ‘implied consent’ in a sexual assault trial.

“The idea that she has to push or shove … that’s just legally wrong. But the fact that it’s legally wrong doesn’t mean people aren’t still seeing those as the dominant stories and using them to filter cases out of the system at each step of the way.”

Johnson said Ashley’s case fits with conventions of filtering out and discounting survivors’ experiences. It’s not just an issue at the policing level, she notes. Sexual assault cases face a lineup of gatekeepers including police, lawyers, judges and society in general.

“Maybe the police officer is right to say that in the current legal system we have, it won’t matter that she was sexually assaulted. We have multiple players in the system that are maybe making rational conclusions based on our structurally flawed system.”

Carissa Ropponen, spokesperson for the Victoria Sexual Assault Centre, says accessing the criminal justice system is re-traumatizing for survivors of sexual assault, if they even make it that far.

She notes that approximately only 10 per cent of sexual assault survivors report to police.

“We know that many survivors are not treated with the respect and dignity that they deserve.”

Sgt. Andy Stuart of the SPD family protection unit told Black Press the majority of sexual assault files involving adults are handled by patrol officers – who may or may not have experience with that type of investigation.

In B.C., police don’t decide if charges will be filed on a given case – that decision comes from Crown counsel. But officers decide if there is enough evidence to submit a report to Crown.

For Saanich police, the decision and details of the investigation must first be reviewed and signed off by a supervisor. This year, SPD added more oversight, with the family protection unit now reviewing each sexual assault file. Those officers check to ensure the individual was interviewed in an appropriate setting and offered resources for ongoing support.

READ ALSO: No charges laid in reported sexual assault at CFB Esquimalt

The most common type of sexual assault – called ‘level 1’ in the Criminal Code of Canada – does not involve weapons; when the ‘sexual integrity of the victim is violated’ – and typically occurs between two people who know each other. Those crimes are difficult to prove at trial.

The number of sexual assaults reported to SPD has risen steadily – from 2010 to 2014 the average number of sexual assault reports was 40.4. Between 2017 and 2019 it was 85.7.

Statistics Canada notes that after the #MeToo social media movement began, and as thousands of people shared survivor stories, more sexual assaults were reported in which the accused was known to the victim. In 2017, the number of sexual assault incidents reported to police was higher than it had ever been since 1998.

Ropponen said that coming forward to speak about sexual violence is difficult.

“The shame and blame that people experience having to speak about an experience where you’ve been violated is really challenging to do. Going to police and having to recount the details of that trauma can be completely overwhelming. If the officer involved is not treating the survivor with the respect and dignity that they deserve, it’s even more challenging to go through that process.”

For members of marginalized communities, that process can be even harder. People who have been over-policed and targeted and experienced harassment from police, may not see police as a safe place to go, she said.

Ropponen and Stuart agree reform is needed. Both called for alternative systems that work to heal and remedy injustice without pitting survivors against the accused in criminal court.

For Ashley, there was no justice.

“They said [the constable] was going to get more training. But my case is over now.”

For resources and help dealing with sexual assault, visit the Victoria Sexual Assault Centre’s website at or call 250-383-3232.

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“I am not him”

Far too much emphasis has been placed in Canada on the actions of a Minneapolis police officer. America’s problems are their problems, not ours.

Canada is not perfect but Canadian officers ARE NOT HIM.

Jamie Johnston, Officer Johnston is making a difference by drawing attention that she is NOT HIM. Neither are thousands of her colleagues.

Oorah Officer Johnston. I post this, hopefully with your permission and for sure all the respect and kudos that go with your motivation.


May 31 at 9:08 AM

I’m a Police officer. I’m not Chauvin.
I’m a mom. I’m not him. I’m a wife. I’m not him. I’m a daughter, sister, cousin, friend. I’m not him. I’M NOT HIM.
His actions don’t represent me, or how I am as a Police officer. Before you think that all cops are racist and evil, think about this for a second.
You’re friends with me. you’ve laughed with me, hugged me, cried with me, shared stories with me, come to me for advice. I’ve listened to you vent. I’ve seen you at your best and worst. I’ve celebrated life’s little moments with you!

When I put on my uniform and go to work, that Jamie doesn’t go way. If you feel for one second I’m racist cop delete me, don’t ever speak to me again. If you know I’m not racist, then please know that not all cops are racist, and use excessive force.
What happened to Floyd was not a cop doing his job, that was a cop who doesn’t have compassion about his job or the people in his community.

I will say it again I’M NOT HIM!

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White. Yellow. Orange. Red. Your new favorite colors.

Welcome to situational awareness for women.

Colonel Jeff Cooper’s Color Code of Awareness developed for law enforcement, adapted here for women.


This condition applies when you are by yourself, possibly in the bathtub with a glass of chardonnay. You know your windows and doors are locked and you have zero responsibilities at the moment.

Yes, very few women have this pleasure which is the point. You need to be aware of your surroundings 100% of the time.


This is your awareness every waking moment of your day. If you have children you know the feeling; you check on your children before you retire and when you awake. When you are working in your home, you are aware of their location.

Many women fall out of this when they leave their house, not checking their vehicle’s back seat as they approach, locking their doors immediately after entering, parking in a highly visible location as close to their destination as possible, controlling your children but not at the cost of your personal safety.

One site uses an example of a woman grocery shopping seeing a man following her. She is in White. NO. When you are out and about you are automatically in yellow, always checking your surroundings. And if in doubt, ask for an escort to your vehicle.

This is NOT paranoia, it is common sense personal safety.

Condition Orange

Using grocery shopping as an example, a woman puts her groceries in her vehicle and sees a man approaching, looking at her. She immediately moves to ORANGE, and is ready to react. She reaches into her coat pocket placing her hand on a canister of pepper spray then proceeds to enter her car, lock the doors and leave.

Had the man continued his approach she would have gone to RED and yelled, “Back off” staring him directly in the eye as she proceeded to enter her vehicle, prepared to spray him directly in the face.

The aggression of RED leaves no doubt in a woman’s persona that she is prepared to act in her own defense and not be a passive object.

Please take a moment and view these videos of women in a self-defense class and listen to their aggressiveness.

Read what these Strong Women have to say.

“I think women are scared of feeling powerful and strong and brave sometimes. There’s nothing wrong with being afraid. It’s not the absence of fear, it’s overcoming it and sometimes you just have to blast through and have faith.” Emma Watson

Do not believe that society will protect you. The police are reactive. You must be proactive. It is not difficult if you believe in the Color Code of Awareness and acquire skills.

Read one woman’s journey through the court system expecting justice.

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