“Stop believing the lies who you are. So you can become who you were meant to be.”

You turfed your abuser. Now what? Healing will take time and patience. Assessing what went wrong in your abusive relationship can consume you. Don’t do it. Shit happens. We make mistakes and end up with the wrong person. Changing locations, getting a new job and moving on works. Not immediately, but it does according to many women who have, unfortunately, been in your shoes. Read the entire blog and find useful suggestions on how to move on with your life, then combine those idea with what Rachel is offering. Here … Continue reading

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Flirting with Death

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Flirting with Death. Violent men will always abound and police are reactive. Women need to be proactive embracing themselves and their safety.

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from the “J” Team

Merry Xmas from The JTeam Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from the “J” Team. We hope you are enjoying our novels and are ready for “Santa Barbara Secrets” debuting in the New Year. Rebecca, Elisabeth, Jessica, Jason, Jackson and Jonathan Someday at Christmas. Andra and Stevie share a message. Can we all work toward this goal which has been elusive for centuries? Listen to Andra and Stevie Holidays & booze bring out the assailant in some relatives. Please reach out to any woman who is surviving violence in her life … Continue reading

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19% of women (surveyed) report workplace harassment.

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“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.” This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”. Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to deescalate but also to have an emergency button to call security. I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training … Continue reading

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“It’s Worth The Read. Women In Their 40’s+ Give Advice To Their 20-Something Selves”

LEAVE AT THE FIRST LIE! Live alone for a while. Many women jump at the chance to have a roommate or worse, live with a man. These women have zero transition from living with parents to spreading their wings. To do things without thinking of anyone but themselves. Don’t go to bars, pubs or taverns to mingle with like minded people. A night out with friends with whom you have a vocation or avocation in common with dinner and a few drinks, but hitting bars to get drunk is a … Continue reading

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Men, what steps do you take to prevent being sexually assaulted?

This is often the reply, “Nothing. I don’t think about it.” Here is what the majority of women do…DAILY. The following is an excerpt from Michael Feniello. Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences. “I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you … Continue reading

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RCMP and Vancouver PD. One reactive. One proactive approach to sexual assault.

Law Enforcement is reactive. That is a fact of life. Women, DO NOT allow yourself to be part of this reaction to a sexual or domestic assault. Learn what you need to know to prevent it from happening. Survivors have historically been seen by law enforcement as being part of their own assault. Below, the RCMP is assuring survivors, that is no longer the case with the Force. There have been remarkable changes since Commissioner Brenda Lecki took office. This is but one. “Sexual assault is a devastating crime that … Continue reading

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Teach our boys to be respectful men.

Teaching our boys. “What can I do to shape my son into a respectful man—one who doesn’t assault women, most importantly, but who also doesn’t make lewd jokes, grab butts, mock victims, or generally treat women as if they’re inferior?” How do I teach my son to treat girls with respect? “Aren’t the people best positioned to prevent sexual assaults the people who usually commit sexual assaults in the first place?” Melinda Wenner Moyer HE WILL NOT CHANGE A Women’s Resource Centre for which I volunteer my expertise told me, … Continue reading

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Retaliating against a sexual assailants. What would you do?

Google this, “Retaliate against sexual assailant” What did you find? Any articles or links to what happens to sexual assailants if not caught by police? Any mention of the survivor’s relatives putting her assailant in the hospital? None. Is retaliation happening and we are not hearing about it? Is retaliation excusable? Is it necessary? Read below and note that out of 1,000 assailants, only seven are prosecuted. Perpetrators of Sexual Violence Often Have Criminal Histories Perpetrators of rape are often serial criminals. Out of every 1,000 suspected rape perpetrators: Referred … Continue reading

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CFJC and Kamloops, British Columbia taking a stand against violence.

My sincere appreciation to CFJC staff for the opportunity to discuss the second novel in the `J`Team Series. All sales proceeds are donated to women`s centres. The YWCA and the Kamloops Sexual Assault Counselling Centre were the recipients of readers`generosity in 2017. View the interview and support Excerpt from `30,000 Secrets` Prologue Len Thiessen was blasting east out of StoneHead, Wyoming trying to maintain the speed limit, but anxious to put time and distance between him and StoneHead Ranch where he had wrangled for the last five years, albeit more … Continue reading

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