Vancouver Police Chief Palmer advice re Personal Safety

Vancouver Police Chief Palmer advises citizens to take responsibility for their personal safety. “If you can not hide, fight. You have every right to defend yourself” Police Chief Palmer Watch Vancouver Police Video Vancouver Police Chief Palmer on personal safety Vancouver PD safety tips “Many people fear the possibility of being robbed or assaulted while outside the safety of their home and, though these incidents are fairly rare, they do happen. There are some basic steps that you can take to help prevent an assault or to respond correctly if … Continue reading

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Medical doctors with different salaries. Discrimination?

Canada’s federal Liberal government has promised to eliminate pay inequity. But can they? Within the medical field, is it discrimination based on gender or is the pay difference attributed to another element? Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms, Article 15 deals with the right to equality. Equality Rights Marginal note:Equality before and under law and equal protection and benefit of law 15. (1) Every individual is equal before and under the law and has the right to the equal protection and equal benefit of the law without discrimination and, in … Continue reading

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Vicariousness. Is this parenting style harming children?

vi·car·i·ous·ly vəˈkerēəslē,vīˈkerēəslē/Submit adverb in a way that is experienced in the imagination through the actions of another person. “she was living vicariously through her children” Google What does vicariousness have to do with gender identity? Everything. A woman gives birth to a baby, then nurtures, her or him to maximize their potential. THEIR being the child’s, not the parents. I attended a toddler’s birthday on a hot day. His grandmother placed a hat on his head. The grandfather ripped it off his head saying, “No grandson of mine is wearing … Continue reading

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Canada’s Supreme Court recognizes, “Battered Woman Syndrome.”

Battered Woman Syndrome “Why doesn’t she just leave?” is often spoken about women who stay in an abusive relationship. Easier said than done. I have helped women exit such conditions and in every case the men were vicious and evil human beings. They knew only one thing and it wasn’t court orders or police presence. Women tried to flee only to be tracked down and assaulted again. Here is the sad solution to which some survivors use and it is a legitimate defense in Canada. Read of these landmark cases. … Continue reading

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Female abusers. Read who they are and what motivates them.

“She was petite and very quiet. She had taken her partner’s head and slammed it through a plate-glass window.” “Women who grew up in a family where they were exposed to domestic violence, or who have been with an abusive partner in the past, are more likely to fall victim to an abusive partner again or become abusive themselves.” I interviewed a man in a Portland, Oregon jail who had been abused for years and didn’t fight back because he was taught never to hit a woman. One day he … Continue reading

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Male aggression. Controlling it…female style with defensive skills.

Excerpt from “Wyoming Secrets.” Female defensive skills. Penelope and Rebecca are at a dance club with their girlfriends, enjoying a girls’ night out. “While eating, two guys came over and asked them to dance. Between mouthfuls, Rebecca said, “Thanks fellas, but no, this is a girl’s night out, maybe some other time.” The men persisted, trying to coax at least one of the women to join them on the dance floor. The foursome’s refusal seemed to fuel the-would-be suitors and they kept on and on until finally Rebecca stood up. … Continue reading

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Escaping. 23 ways to document domestic abuse.

“23 Ways Survivors Can Collect Evidence of Domestic Abuse.” 1. Any written rules imposed by the abuser 2. Information about abuse of previous partners 3. Proof that you were being financially marginalized 4.Records proving you provided most of the child care 5. Personal journal of physical and nonphysical incidents 6. Calendar indicating days and frequency of abuse 7. Video recordings of arguments or conversations 8. Audio recordings of arguments or conversations 9. Photos or video of any injuries 10.Medical reports of your injuries or stress-related diagnosis 11.Medical reports of your … Continue reading

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“Sorry!” “Sorry!” “Sorry!” Women, enough. Stop saying, “Sorry!”

We are not referring to basic human politeness such as, “I’m sorry I’m late for our luncheon.” “It’s my fault I made him angry—I should be a better partner. He’s just stressed out right now.” STOP IT! You are not responsible for any one’s behavior but your own. “But repetitive, nearly constant apologies for every little thing—or, what Psychologist Paige Carambio, PsyD calls, “apologizing for existing”—can actually be an after-effect of trauma, a self-preservation technique survivors may think they still need to utilize in order to protect themselves.” “She says … Continue reading

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Social Responsibility. We all need to prevent domestic violence.

“Society has role to play in trying to prevent domestic violence. We do not have to allow this to happen. “Years worth of evidence suggests perpetrators of domestic violence exhibit patterns that make it possible to predict when someone is in harm’s way. Being aware of warning signs, experts said, could help prevent tragedies such as the one that unfolded in Ajax, Ont., earlier this week.” “… community members rather than justice or violence-prevention workers are often best positioned to take meaningful, potentially life-saving action.” Do not be apprehensive to … Continue reading

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Relationship Myths. Is your partner a potential abuser?

Is it possible to spot an abusive partner before you get involved? Revealing these myths might enlighten. Spotting a potentially abusive partner “Dr. Phil blows the whistle on 10 of the most common but dangerous relationship myths.” Think your relationship is a failure because you and your partner aren’t following certain “rules” or meeting certain standards? Dr. Phil blows the whistle on 10 of the most common but dangerous relationship myths. MYTH #1: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON A GREAT MEETING OF THE MINDS You will never see things through … Continue reading

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