Sexual assaults on university campuses.

University of British Columbia Sexual Assault Need to talk? Support is available. You can drop by during centre hours or schedule an appointment with us via phone (604-827-5180) and email (http://amssasc.ca/contact-us/)UBC Sexual Assault Support contacts. We can help with the following: Sexual assault Sexual abuse in childhood Intimate partner violence or relationship violence Stalking Harassment Isolation and hazing Self care and coping strategies Boundaries and assertiveness Safety planning University of British Columbia Sexual Assault Support Centre We shouldn’t need a definition of sexual assault but a quick perusal of social … Continue reading

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Recovering after a controlling relationship. Advice & Support.

“It takes a long time to recover from an abusive and controlling relationship. Being monitored, isolated, stalked and abused leave their mark.” Read Domestic Shelter’s advice on recovery after a controlling relationship. Reclaiming activities and friends previously blocked. Expressing yourself, free from criticism or violence. “It is natural for survivors to feel fear and regret from time to time. Looking ahead will give them hope. It is usually best for survivors to separate themselves as much as possible from the controlling person and his contacts, so they cannot be controlled … Continue reading

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Personal boundaries. How to determine yours, then set them.

“When was the last time you thought about your personal boundaries? They are the non-negotiable lines that our partner cannot cross in order for us to feel respected and safe in a relationship. Boundaries keep us intact, and we should know and express them no matter how new, or not new, a relationship is. Boundaries protect our personal goals, dreams, values, autonomy and self-worth. If you haven’t thought about where your own boundaries stand, there’s no better time than the present” Read how to set personal boundaries from Domestic Shelters … Continue reading

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“What the hell do you know..” Lady Gaga. Until it happens to you.

“What the hell do you know until it happens to you?” Lady Gaga BELIEVE ME YOU WILL HEAR ME I AM WORTHY I LOVE MYSELF ONE IN FIVE COLLEGE WOMEN WILL BE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED THIS YEAR UNLESS SOMETHING CHANGES If you want to be part of making a social change and move us all forward in equality and decency, view Lady Gaga’s video and share your reaction below. Lady Gaga explains, “What the hell do you know..” in her video Thanks to Lady Gaga and The Hunting Ground productions for … Continue reading

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Sexual violence. Men, here’s what you can do to stop it.

“VANCOUVER — Stephanie Hale remembers jumping up and down and crying tears of joy when she received her acceptance letter from the University of British Columbia. Now, she wishes she had pursued her degree anywhere else.” “The university has been under fire for its response to sexual assault allegations since 2015, when a group of women came forward to say the school had dragged its heels on complaints about a male PhD student. Glynnis Kirchmeier, who alleged she witnessed misconduct by the man, filed a human-rights complaint the following year.” … Continue reading

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Sexual harassment in the workplace & how to stop it.

What is sexual harassment In the Ontario Human Rights Code (the Code), sexual harassment is “engaging in a course of vexatious comment or conduct that is known or ought to be known to be unwelcome.” In some cases, one incident could be serious enough to be sexual harassment. Sexual harassment can include: Sexual solicitation and advances (i.e. a manager asking for sex in exchange for a promotion) A poisoned environment (i.e. pornographic images in the workplace) Gender-based harassment (i.e. targeting someone for not following sex-role stereotypes) Violence (if inappropriate sexual … Continue reading

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A morning ritual which may change your day (s).

Motivation. Your weekend thought provoking short read. Anthony Robins has motivated hundreds of thousands of successful people, one person at a time. I have learned from and quoted Robbins numerous times in my novels whose characters are successful in their fields. Thanks to Kasteen Michelle Beltowski for making Robbins my weekend exercise. Here are his morning stimulating exercises. 1. Breathing Begin by sitting straight with your eyes closed. Inhale deeply through your nostrils while simultaneously lifting your arms in a shoulder press motion, and then exhale forcefully through your nostrils … Continue reading

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“Love and abuse are not at all mutually exclusive.”*

* Holly Richmond, Ph.D., a somatic psychologist and adjunct professor at John F. Kennedy University. Don’t most divorce couples acknowledge that their marriage had some good times, but the bad finally outranked the good? “What they hang onto is those good times. The bad times are usually a smaller percentage of the relationship than the good.” So it can be easy to rationalize staying, waiting for the good times and hoping the bad times won’t happen again. Dr. Richmond Richmond points out that the issue is about you, the abuse … Continue reading

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British Columbia’s CFJC Television supporting sexual assault survivors with this interview

British Columbia’s CFJC supports sexual assault survivors with this interview and review of two of the “J” Team novels. Wyoming Secrets, 30,000 Secrets and the “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. Listen to singer Donna Summer explain her problem and solution. The novels’ inspiration develops through Rebecca, Elisabeth and Jessica who experience violence both in their professional and person lives. The agents’ physical and emotional responses to antagonists draw the reader to the protagonists’ techniques … Continue reading

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Barb’s Benches. Honoring the memory of women murdered by their partners.

This is a significant social position which we encourage everyone to share and promote. “In Nova Scotia, purple benches located in public places serve a dual role—they honor the memory of women who were murdered by their partners and they provide information so that people facing domestic violence know where to turn for help. “Known as Barb’s Benches, the colorful memorials were launched to help keep alive the memory of Barbara Baillie who was killed by her husband on Oct. 19, 1990. As the 25th anniversary of her murder approached, … Continue reading

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