“It’s Worth The Read. Women In Their 40’s+ Give Advice To Their 20-Something Selves”

LEAVE AT THE FIRST LIE! Live alone for a while. Many women jump at the chance to have a roommate or worse, live with a man. These women have zero transition from living with parents to spreading their wings. To do things without thinking of anyone but themselves. Don’t go to bars, pubs or taverns to mingle with like minded people. A night out with friends with whom you have a vocation or avocation in common with dinner and a few drinks, but hitting bars to get drunk is a … Continue reading

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Men, what steps do you take to prevent being sexually assaulted?

This is often the reply, “Nothing. I don’t think about it.” Here is what the majority of women do…DAILY. The following is an excerpt from Michael Feniello. Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences. “I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you … Continue reading

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RCMP and Vancouver PD. One reactive. One proactive approach to sexual assault.

Law Enforcement is reactive. That is a fact of life. Women, DO NOT allow yourself to be part of this reaction to a sexual or domestic assault. Learn what you need to know to prevent it from happening. Survivors have historically been seen by law enforcement as being part of their own assault. Below, the RCMP is assuring survivors, that is no longer the case with the Force. There have been remarkable changes since Commissioner Brenda Lecki took office. This is but one. “Sexual assault is a devastating crime that … Continue reading

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Teach our boys to be respectful men.

Teaching our boys. “What can I do to shape my son into a respectful man—one who doesn’t assault women, most importantly, but who also doesn’t make lewd jokes, grab butts, mock victims, or generally treat women as if they’re inferior?” How do I teach my son to treat girls with respect? “Aren’t the people best positioned to prevent sexual assaults the people who usually commit sexual assaults in the first place?” Melinda Wenner Moyer HE WILL NOT CHANGE A Women’s Resource Centre for which I volunteer my expertise told me, … Continue reading

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Retaliating against a sexual assailants. What would you do?

Google this, “Retaliate against sexual assailant” What did you find? Any articles or links to what happens to sexual assailants if not caught by police? Any mention of the survivor’s relatives putting her assailant in the hospital? None. Is retaliation happening and we are not hearing about it? Is retaliation excusable? Is it necessary? Read below and note that out of 1,000 assailants, only seven are prosecuted. Perpetrators of Sexual Violence Often Have Criminal Histories Perpetrators of rape are often serial criminals. Out of every 1,000 suspected rape perpetrators: Referred … Continue reading

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CFJC and Kamloops, British Columbia taking a stand against violence.

My sincere appreciation to CFJC staff for the opportunity to discuss the second novel in the `J`Team Series. All sales proceeds are donated to women`s centres. The YWCA and the Kamloops Sexual Assault Counselling Centre were the recipients of readers`generosity in 2017. View the interview and support Excerpt from `30,000 Secrets` Prologue Len Thiessen was blasting east out of StoneHead, Wyoming trying to maintain the speed limit, but anxious to put time and distance between him and StoneHead Ranch where he had wrangled for the last five years, albeit more … Continue reading

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Take a stand against violence.

“What could I do? There wasn’t anything I could do? I couldn’t stand up against him!” Actually, you could, can and should have. I have had several battered women seek shelter in our home and to a man, their abuser backs off when they are confronted. I have been told it is because I am male. That might be true in some, but not all cases. It is the thought that their despicable behavior is now known to another and s/he will call the police. Here is an incident shared … Continue reading

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Incels (involuntary celibate) and their dystopian culture.

Incels is a social sub-culture who are misogynists who feel deeply wronged. “…men who call themselves “incels,” and the broader internet sphere of men who cluster their identities around having been done wrong by women, are not interested in mere sexual companionship. Their loneliness, angst, and the feeling of lost power are a pitiable cover story to a problem with white male subcultures that reaches back several years and into some of the darkest corners of the internet. What began as unchecked toxic culture in fringe websites and forums has … Continue reading

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Canada’s RCMP offer advice and video support for survivors.

From the Yukon, Brenda Butterworth-Carr is the Commander of British Columbia’s “E” Division, the largest in Canada. “In a crisis situation, victims of sexualized assault need to know what their options are, whether they want to report it or not,” says Collyn Lovelace, co-ordinator of the Yukon Women’s Coalition. “Knowing what to expect is a huge part of making an informed choice.” “The videos walk victims through the step-by-step process of reporting domestic violence and sexual assault to police. They also explain what the court process is, including what the … Continue reading

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Relationships. Don’t allow yours to degenerate to this.

“Two North Carolina children got ahold of a gun and fatally shot a man police said was assaulting and strangling their mother. During the attack, Steven Kelley, 46, said he was going to cut the throat of Chandra Nierman, his girlfriend, and kill everyone in the home, the Rutherford County Sheriff’s Office said. Police said Nierman’s 12-year-old son obtained a gun, and her 15-year-old daughter used it to shoot Kelley in the chest twice. Police were called to the home just after midnight on August 8 and found Kelley already … Continue reading

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