“It can sound like name-calling, constantly correcting someone’s behavior or yelling at, denouncing or demeaning someone. It can also take the form of a prolonged silent treatment.”
“In the more than two decades since Patrica Evans published her book, she says she’s counseled some 40,000 people about verbal abuse, many of whom didn’t even realize that what was happening to them by their partners was considered abuse.”
Verbal abuse doesn’t exist just in adult relationships, it appears in many homes with some parents abusing their children to the point that the child thinks she is incapable. “…people who experience it may just start to think, ‘I’m an awful stupid person.’”
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Please share with your contacts, you may not know someone trapped by verbal violence but one of your friends may, and this post might offer help, a life-line.
1. It happens behind closed doors.
2. It comes out of nowhere.
3. It happens when the survivor is visibly happy.
4. It starts to feel familiar.
5. The abuser puts down his or her partner’s interests.
6. After the verbal abuse, the abuser does not seek reconciliation.
7. Between incidents, the relationship seems normal.
8. The survivor feels isolated.
9. The abuser defines his or her partner, their relationship and, most often, the interactions.
10. The survivor doesn’t use verbally abusive language when talking to his or her partner.
Verbal abuse of children/teens can lead to sexual abuse. Here is a pediatrician’s take.