Domestic abuse takes many forms.

“It can sound like name-calling, constantly correcting someone’s behavior or yelling at, denouncing or demeaning someone. It can also take the form of a prolonged silent treatment.”

“In the more than two decades since Patrica Evans published her book, she says she’s counseled some 40,000 people about verbal abuse, many of whom didn’t even realize that what was happening to them by their partners was considered abuse.”

Verbal abuse doesn’t exist just in adult relationships, it appears in many homes with some parents abusing their children to the point that the child thinks she is incapable. “…people who experience it may just start to think, ‘I’m an awful stupid person.’”

Our appreciation to Domestic Shelters for their expertise.

Please share with your contacts, you may not know someone trapped by verbal violence but one of your friends may, and this post might offer help, a life-line.

1. It happens behind closed doors.

2. It comes out of nowhere.

3. It happens when the survivor is visibly happy.

4. It starts to feel familiar.

5. The abuser puts down his or her partner’s interests.

6. After the verbal abuse, the abuser does not seek reconciliation.
7. Between incidents, the relationship seems normal.

8. The survivor feels isolated.

9. The abuser defines his or her partner, their relationship and, most often, the interactions.

10. The survivor doesn’t use verbally abusive language when talking to his or her partner.

Verbal abuse of children/teens can lead to sexual abuse. Here is a pediatrician’s take.

Dr. Tobi Adeyeye Amosun explains.

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Jonathan McCormick holds a Black Belt in Combat Martial Arts. He is a U.S Marine (Inactive), trained with famed CIA operative Rex Applegate and Ultimate Fighter Champion Royce Gracie and was the director of the Institute of Defense Tactics. He is a former member of the American Society of Law Enforcement Trainers and worked with members of various law enforcement agencies in the areas of suspect control and officer safety. He has written for law enforcement magazines BlueLine ( and Twenty-Four-Seven and has been a guest writer for the Vancouver Province. “Wyoming Secrets”, “30,000 Secrets”, “Santa Barbara Secrets” and The “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. View the Series
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2 Responses to Domestic abuse takes many forms.

  1. Thanks for publishing this and making readers aware of this form of abuse.
    When I was with Delta Force I probably went to pubs and bars more often than I do now and there were numerous occasions where I and my troop mates would observe some shit-head brow-beating a woman, supposedly either his date or partner.
    Invariably I would intervene in which case the shit-head would yell at me to mind my own business and I wouldn’t. He would try and punch me and I would lay him out. Sadly, in more than 1/2 the incidents the woman would become furious at me for intervening even though she was clearly in distress at the time.
    Yes, I know the reason behind her behavior which is why I always carried business cards for the local women’s shelter and would give one to these unfortunate women and hope they would follow through.

  2. I don’t have children and don’t expect to have any but I can’t imagine berating any child into conformity. Abuse in any form needs to be extinguished or the relationship ended.

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