How you chose a loser for a partner

Psychotherapist and relationship coach Rachel Dack says fear and insecurity play a part in staying with a loser.

“When contemplating whether to leave a relationship or not, fear often kicks in. Questions surface: ‘Will I ever find love again? What if I end up alone forever? These questions ignite fear.”

How you chose a looser for a partner.

These are deal breakers for many women and yet many ignore the warnings and stay. They have chosen a loser and won’t cut him loose.

Cheap
Living with parents (yes, really)
Smoker
Lying
Lazy
Rude
Cursing

Messiness scored way down on the list of unacceptable behaviors and yet women who choose slobs complain that they are, in fact, slobs.

What didn’t appear on the survey of 619,000 was drugs and alcohol.

“Deal breakers! Absolute, drop-dead, zero-tolerance deal breakers. Let me remind you of the obvious: drugs and alcohol are substances that, if abused, create an altered state of consciousness,” says Dr. Phil McGraw.
Dr. McGraw on addiction in relationships

If any of his behavior sends up a red flag of addiction, why would you allow the relationship to continue?

If you are already in a toxic relationship, peruse these resources and get out.

Resources, Exiting a toxic relationship.

Racism or bigotry were not addressed in the survey. Would you date someone who held negative views against others based on race or religion?

5 Responses to How you chose a loser for a partner

  1. Jason Spencer says:

    This is an interesting survey.
    Cheap
    Living with parents (yes, really)
    Smoker
    Lying
    Lazy
    Rude
    Cursing

    The only one of these of which I am guilty is swearing. But I have never to my knowledge done it on a date. It is usually with my colleagues when I am pissed about an aspect of an investigation.
    Why do seldom get second dates? Too macho? Don’t like my dreads? Detect my firearm? I’m ugly?

  2. Jason, I agree. None of these apply to you but I could probably come up with a few reasons why women reject you after the first date. It has to do with your attire. The moment you give a woman a hug, she can tell you are carrying.
    I have the same problem and I am not about to stop so I guess we are destined to be a life of one night stands.
    Seriously. No woman would want either one of us because of our jobs.

  3. Rebecca Simpson says:

    I showed this post to my Mom and she smiled. She said she felt bad that so many girls pick losers and gave me a hug. She now knows I am gay but previously she always encouraged me to enjoy my own company and not NEED a man.
    Mom, you are the greatest! Love You!!

  4. Jonathan says:

    This just posted on FB by Women’s Rights might have an answer. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1433073170068408&id=184599864915751

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