Psychotherapist and relationship coach Rachel Dack says fear and insecurity play a part in staying with a loser.
“When contemplating whether to leave a relationship or not, fear often kicks in. Questions surface: ‘Will I ever find love again? What if I end up alone forever? These questions ignite fear.”
How you chose a looser for a partner.
These are deal breakers for many women and yet many ignore the warnings and stay. They have chosen a loser and won’t cut him loose.
Cheap
Living with parents (yes, really)
Smoker
Lying
Lazy
Rude
Cursing
Messiness scored way down on the list of unacceptable behaviors and yet women who choose slobs complain that they are, in fact, slobs.
What didn’t appear on the survey of 619,000 was drugs and alcohol.
“Deal breakers! Absolute, drop-dead, zero-tolerance deal breakers. Let me remind you of the obvious: drugs and alcohol are substances that, if abused, create an altered state of consciousness,” says Dr. Phil McGraw.
Dr. McGraw on addiction in relationships
If any of his behavior sends up a red flag of addiction, why would you allow the relationship to continue?
If you are already in a toxic relationship, peruse these resources and get out.
Resources, Exiting a toxic relationship.
Racism or bigotry were not addressed in the survey. Would you date someone who held negative views against others based on race or religion?
This is an interesting survey.
Cheap
Living with parents (yes, really)
Smoker
Lying
Lazy
Rude
Cursing
The only one of these of which I am guilty is swearing. But I have never to my knowledge done it on a date. It is usually with my colleagues when I am pissed about an aspect of an investigation.
Why do seldom get second dates? Too macho? Don’t like my dreads? Detect my firearm? I’m ugly?
This woman explains how she recovered.
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1180622478683041&id=100002059008768
Jason, I agree. None of these apply to you but I could probably come up with a few reasons why women reject you after the first date. It has to do with your attire. The moment you give a woman a hug, she can tell you are carrying.
I have the same problem and I am not about to stop so I guess we are destined to be a life of one night stands.
Seriously. No woman would want either one of us because of our jobs.
I showed this post to my Mom and she smiled. She said she felt bad that so many girls pick losers and gave me a hug. She now knows I am gay but previously she always encouraged me to enjoy my own company and not NEED a man.
Mom, you are the greatest! Love You!!
This just posted on FB by Women’s Rights might have an answer. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1433073170068408&id=184599864915751