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#WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft, in which survivors shared their stories of why they remained in abusive relationships and why they eventually got out. Yet misconceptions persist — that abuse is a private matter, that women who stay with abusive partners are simply weak-willed, that women are just as abusive as men. Cosmopolitan.com talked to the experts to clear up some of the most stubborn, and most dangerous, myths about intimate partner violence.
“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.”
This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”.
Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to de-escalate but also to have an emergency button to call security.
I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training when repeated appeals for improved security were ignored by hospital management.
“Sexual harassment was most likely to affect women, with four per cent saying they had experienced unwanted sexual attention in the workplace, compared to fewer than one per cent of men.”
Many men often respond to the above statistics with, “Ya, I should be so lucky”. A junior high response to an increasing problem which women have dealt with for years.
“Rescuing your relationship means rescuing you. Until you begin to live with dignity, respect, and emotional integrity, you will not have that quality and level of interaction with anyone else.” Phil McGraw In “Santa Barbara Secrets” Dr. Penelope Barker and Rebecca Simpson explore their new relationship, asking the tough questions regarding emotional commitment, their past heterosexual relationships and what brought them together. The third in the “J” Team series is available at Amazon, your library and local women’s resource center. If you are involved in a relationship issue, “Santa Barbara … Continue reading
Does an abuser you know fit one of these categories?
The above title was told to thirty female defensive tactics students in a gym. The comment was prompted by a student declaring that she was having difficulty accepting the philosophy of, “Attacking your Attacker”. The woman making the Title statement continued with, “He wasn’t always this way but he was having difficulties at work and wouldn’t talk about them. He would drink and become violent. I left him two weeks ago and obtained a protection order thanks to the help and guidance of the Women’s Resource Centre. The problem is … Continue reading
Whether the issue is parents not vaccinating their children and now, as teens, revolting and having the vaccination or parents directing their teens into careers, relationships or social encounters against their will, teens are rebelling in numbers greater than seen in many years. Far too many teens feeling hopeless, leave home and end up on the street. Some are drawn to the mind numbing euphoria of drugs, some solicit to survive while others struggle to discover if a normal life exists and if so, what does it look like. Parents … Continue reading
“Santa Barbara Secrets” is the third in the “J” Team Series which began with “Wyoming Secrets” and the development of the “J” Team to interdict the radical conservative Christians for a Better America. It was followed by “30,000 Secrets” where the “J” Team tracks down the CFBA leaders and fouling their attempt to eliminate hundreds of Democratic politicians on a flight from Minneapolis to LAX.
Don’t live a life of fear. Regain control as so many other women have.
Wyoming Secrets, 30,000 Secrets, Santa Barbara Secrets and the “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which embolden and motivate women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives.
McCormick’s female characters personify his students who have captured courage and changed their lives.
You turfed your abuser. Now what? Healing will take time and patience. Assessing what went wrong in your abusive relationship can consume you. Don’t do it. Shit happens. We make mistakes and end up with the wrong person. Changing locations, getting a new job and moving on works. Not immediately, but it does according to many women who have, unfortunately, been in your shoes. Read the entire blog and find useful suggestions on how to move on with your life, then combine those idea with what Rachel is offering. Here … Continue reading
Incels is a social sub-culture who are misogynists who feel deeply wronged. “…men who call themselves “incels,” and the broader internet sphere of men who cluster their identities around having been done wrong by women, are not interested in mere sexual companionship. Their loneliness, angst, and the feeling of lost power are a pitiable cover story to a problem with white male subcultures that reaches back several years and into some of the darkest corners of the internet. What began as unchecked toxic culture in fringe websites and forums has … Continue reading
Money. Where is yours? You have decided to leave your abuser but for years he has controlled your joint account. Where are the account numbers or passwords to access your money. How can you obtain this an other information necessary for a fresh start? Domestic Shelters offers tips on money matters Please share, anonymously, any advice or tips for women seeking financial stability when they leave. Tips on how to obtain the necessary information.