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Social Media Safety

How to Make Your Social Media Less … Social

“Obviously, the safest way to stay hidden from an abuser is to stay off the Internet, but what kind of life is that? We get it: You want to be on social media, but you don’t want to put a target on yourself for stalkers or your abuser. Below, some ways to stay safe while still having an online presence.

Keep photos vague. Never post photos that show the location of your home or office. Prause says she posts a fake address for her work and never posts about her home neighborhood. If you want to post photos say, of your Disneyland vacation – an easily recognizable spot – wait until after you’ve left that place.
Read the rest of the safety measures. “

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Strong women are special people who make big changes in this world. They have a vision and don’t stop until their dreams become reality. To them, life is too short to shrink down into a lesser version of themselves. They rise up and meet themselves so they can become the person they were meant to be. A strong woman will shake this world to its core and make a permanent imprint on the universe.

She knows what she wants out of life and isn’t afraid to go after it.
A strong woman likes to be in control but knows when it’s someone else’s time to shine.
She’s creative and uses her imagination to create her reality.
They don’t like drama or gossip and steer clear of people who engage in these shallow behaviors.
They don’t sugarcoat anything. They tell it like it is and expect other people to do the same.
Strong women take care of their health and happiness and don’t expect others to do it for them.
They need a lot of time to recharge their energy since they use so much of it on a daily basis.
A strong woman surrounds herself with positive, empowered people. She doesn’t mesh well with negative people.
They constantly want to learn new things and test their limits.
They have an open mind and believe they can do anything in life.
She doesn’t let anyone manipulate her. She knows her worth and doesn’t believe in keeping her mouth shut just so she doesn’t rock the boat.

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Teenage dancers perform a Travis Wall choreographed routine which highlights the tragedy of the violence we inflict upon our fellow humans daily.

“What could I do? There wasn’t anything I could do? I couldn’t stand up against him!”

Actually, you could, can and should have.

I have had several battered women seek shelter in our home and to a man, their abuser backs off when they are confronted. I have been told it is because I am male.

That might be true in some, but not all cases. It is the thought that their despicable behavior is now known to another and s/he will call the police.

Here is an incident shared by the clinic of a battered woman seeking help from the female staff. She gave them a note stating that her boyfriend was an abuser and had a gun. The couple were waiting in the examining room for the vet.

Read and view how the staff reacted.

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Narcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath. Are you living with one, two, or all three? None? Learn to identify these three traits.

“A narcissist lacks empathy, is grandiose, entitled, constantly seeks validation and is arrogant. “When they do a bad thing, they feel a fair amount of guilt and shame,” says Durvsula.

According to the Mayo Clinic, narcissists can also become impatient or angry when they don’t receive special treatment. They belittle others in order to appear superior. They exaggerate their achievements and talents. They monopolize conversations and disparage those they consider inferior.” Dr. Durvsula

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Emma Watson et al on strong women.

Assailants look for “Vics”, those of us who walk as though preoccupied. Carry yourself erect, shoulders back, head up and look at people you pass. Eye contact or lack of it tells an assailant you want to avoid confrontation and he’ll pick up on that. You don’t need to lock onto his face or stare, look, catch his eye, then look up or off to the side, not down (a passive message) is all that is necessary to get the message across that you’re aware of his presence and that you

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What is domestic violence?

About Domestic Shelters

We make finding the right shelter and information about domestic violence easier. Instead of searching the Internet, it is all right here. We’ve painstakingly verified information on shelters in LA to shelters in NY, and every domestic violence program in between. If you or a friend is suffering from physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse or verbal abuse, this free service can help. Select domestic violence programs based on location, service and language needs. Find 24-hour hotlines in your area, service listings, and helpful articles on domestic violence statistics, signs and cycles of abuse, housing services, emergency services, legal and financial services, support groups for women, children and families, and more.

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“14 Misconceptions About Domestic Violence”

#WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft, in which survivors shared their stories of why they remained in abusive relationships and why they eventually got out. Yet misconceptions persist — that abuse is a private matter, that women who stay with abusive partners are simply weak-willed, that women are just as abusive as men. talked to the experts to clear up some of the most stubborn, and most dangerous, myths about intimate partner violence.

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Sexual harasser transferred to internal affairs. LAPD

“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.”

This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”.

Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to de-escalate but also to have an emergency button to call security.

I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training when repeated appeals for improved security were ignored by hospital management.

“Sexual harassment was most likely to affect women, with four per cent saying they had experienced unwanted sexual attention in the workplace, compared to fewer than one per cent of men.”

Many men often respond to the above statistics with, “Ya, I should be so lucky”. A junior high response to an increasing problem which women have dealt with for years.

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Breakups. They are hard to do. Read the experts’ advice.

“Rescuing your relationship means rescuing you. Until you begin to live with dignity, respect, and emotional integrity, you will not have that quality and level of interaction with anyone else.” Phil McGraw In “Santa Barbara Secrets” Dr. Penelope Barker and Rebecca Simpson explore their new relationship, asking the tough questions regarding emotional commitment, their past heterosexual relationships and what brought them together. The third in the “J” Team series is available at Amazon, your library and local women’s resource center. If you are involved in a relationship issue, “Santa Barbara … Continue reading

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Male abusers come in all disguises. Read who they are.

Does an abuser you know fit one of these categories?

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