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“I am not him”

Far too much emphasis has been placed in Canada on the actions of a Minneapolis police officer. America’s problems are their problems, not ours.

Canada is not perfect but Canadian officers ARE NOT HIM.

I’m a Police officer. I’m not Chauvin.

I’m a mom. I’m not him. I’m a wife. I’m not him. I’m a daughter, sister, cousin, friend. I’m not him. I’M NOT HIM.
His actions don’t represent me, or how I am as a Police officer. Before you think that all cops are racist and evil, think about this for a second.

You’re friends with me. you’ve laughed with me, hugged me, cried with me, shared stories with me, come to me for advice. I’ve listened to you vent. I’ve seen you at your best and worst. I’ve celebrated life’s little moments with you!

When I put on my uniform and go to work, that Jamie doesn’t go way. If you feel for one second I’m racist cop delete me, don’t ever speak to me again. If you know I’m not racist, then please know that not all cops are racist, and use excessive force.

What happened to Floyd was not a cop doing his job, that was a cop who doesn’t have compassion about his job or the people in his community.

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“I’m a heinous asshole. I’m a bit of a bastard. I should never have done it. I walked up to that window, I said, ‘It’s got to happen,'” Finn said. “I was going to shoot myself, do her and do myself at the same time.”

Read how it happened, the warning signs which were ignored and what society can do to stem the tide of rising domestic violence.

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“How long did you feel you needed to be on guard after leaving an abuser?”

The Color Code of Awareness

Condition white, you are relaxed and unaware of what is going on around you. The doors and windows are locked and you know you are safe in your home.

Condition yellow DOES NOT equate with paranoia or any other irrational fear of persons or places. Instead, you simply have moved your alertness to a level of attention that will prevent you from being totally surprised by the actions of another person.

Condition orange, you have identified something of interest that may or may not prove to be a threat.

Until you determine the true nature of whatever has piqued your interest, your “radar” is narrowed to concentrate on the possible threat and will remain so focused until you are satisfied no threat exists.

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Girls can reach, achieve and excel…But

“I wanted them to be like children, playing outside, running and jumping and not sitting inside at a desk,” said Lauren Anderson, who raised the kids in South Lake Tahoe, Calif. “They got to be free, building their bodies, protecting their spirits and minds, and not being pushed or pressured.”

Let’s scrap the idea that girls need to dress a certain way to avoid boys getting the “wrong idea”.

Let’s avoid modeling subservient behavior that our daughters believe they must live under the control of a man.

Let’s not teach our girls that their lives don’t matter compared to that of a man’s.

Let’s stop preparing our girls to be victims of sexual and domestic assaults.

Let’s teach our girls to be bad asses and take the world by storm and be anything they want to be and to be strong enough to reject criticism.

Let’s stop asking five year old girls, “Do you have a boyfriend?”

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“Girls need to know their place.”

The norm has been for girls to be raised to be nice, make people happy, disregard your ambitions and joys.

Parents can show them truck drivers, medical doctors and dentists. They can introduce them to female astronauts and a myriad of other careers previously forbidden

Little Big Town’s Fairchild sings a different tune, literally in this piece showing girls that they can reject the 1950’s social rules. It is 2020 and girls can do and be anything they want and parents do not have to introduce their toddlers to princesses and shining knights.

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Green Flags. What are they and why do they matter?

“What if we switched up that rhetoric, just for a moment, and focused on the potential good that could be waiting for us in the produce section of the grocery store, that coffee shop poetry reading or the speed dating our friends are dragging us to? You know, the “green flags.” Back in July, Buzzfeed talked about a Reddit thread where people called out such green flags—signs that a new person was more likely than not to be a decent, respectful and nonviolent human being.” Thanks to Domestic Shelters for this valuable information.

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“10 Reasons Why Most Women Don’t Find A True Gentleman ❤️”

“10 Reasons Why Most Women Don’t Find A True Gentleman

Women complain a lot that chivalry is dead and that there are no true gentlemen left in the world. But, chivalry is a concept from the medieval period that dictated the behavior between two warriors. The code of chivalry only relates to women in that women were a man’s property (either daughter or wife) and what a warrior needed to do so as not to offend his host or liege lord by not taking liberties with the women of the house.

The idea of the gentleman grew out of the aristocracy and the chivalric code when firearms made the knight obsolete. With their purpose (waging war) taken away from them, the aristocracy had to justify their existence and maintain their warlike demeanor even though they were rarely called upon to fight. Out of this grew the idea of personal honor and the willingness to fight at the drop of a hat for any offense, real or perceived. Throw women into the mix, and men were fighting and killing or dying to protect a woman’s honor.”

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Holiday office parties. How to attend without being sued or arrested.

Too often employees feel the need to change their office behavior at a holiday party. Doing so has lead to divorces, being fired and law suites.

Don’t become a statistic. You can attend the party, make your presence known, don’t consume alcohol and leave after thirty minutes.

“Employees of all levels of seniority and experience can take a company holiday party as license to relax standards of professional behavior. With the holiday season approaching, employees and employers should keep certain points in mind that can help prevent or address sexual harassment or other inappropriate conduct that occurs all-too-often at events that should be considered an extension of the workplace. ”

“Sexual Harassment – Still Not Allowed Away From the Office. Many people do not realize that sexual harassment may give rise to legal claims even if it is committed outside the office, by non-employees (such as clients, vendors and the friends or family of other employees), or when employees are “off the clock.” Employers should ensure that employees are aware of the fact that workplace standards of conduct still apply at company events and parties, and should redistribute the company’s policy against harassment and code of conduct in advance of such occasions. Employees also should dress appropriately and consistent with workplace standards of dress at company events – simply because an event is a party or away from the office does not mean that an

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Shelter Safe Canada

Shelter Safe Canada
Posted on December 10, 2019 by lazeejjs
We are reposting this valuable information to couple with the previous post on Surviving the Holidays.
Any time, day or night, there is someone to whom you can reach out.

Shelter Safe is an interactive site. Just click on your province or territory and follow the prompts. There is a Shelter near you. Make the call if you are being abused.

If you want support, information or referrals you can call a shelter just to talk. Most shelters on this site have staff available 24 hours, 7 days per week to answer your call. Click on the shelters located in the area you wish to find help.

Shelter workers will work with you to design supports specific to your unique needs. They will maintain confidentiality and advocate for you in the complex web of services you may need to access.

It is a safe and welcoming home that accommodates women and their children when they are fleeing violence. Shelter addresses are kept confidential so that women (and children) cannot be found. You can generally stay in these homes for up to 30 days and sometimes longer. There are no charges for you to stay there.

Shelters provide women fleeing violence with the critical support services that will help them make their transition to a life free of abuse. Shelter workers liaise with a number of providers in the community to help women and their children and ensure that they have counseling support and health care.

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Social Media Safety

How to Make Your Social Media Less … Social

“Obviously, the safest way to stay hidden from an abuser is to stay off the Internet, but what kind of life is that? We get it: You want to be on social media, but you don’t want to put a target on yourself for stalkers or your abuser. Below, some ways to stay safe while still having an online presence.

Keep photos vague. Never post photos that show the location of your home or office. Prause says she posts a fake address for her work and never posts about her home neighborhood. If you want to post photos say, of your Disneyland vacation – an easily recognizable spot – wait until after you’ve left that place.
Read the rest of the safety measures. “

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