Category Archives: Sexual Assault/Harassment

DO NOT TOUCH!

As it stands, women are 16 times more likely to be killed with guns in the U.S. than in other developed countries, and more than half of all women killed with guns are murdered by intimate partners or family members.” Domestic Shelters

Know your rights and be aware of your state’s statutes. If a Canadian woman files a complaint against her partner or anyone making threats, police will arrive immediately and seize all firearms of the threatener.

“Standard protection orders do not always require the perpetrator to relinquish firearms. According to Sam Levy, counsel for Everytown, 30 states plus the District of Columbia prohibit firearm possession by people subject to domestic violence restraining orders (DVROs), though only 19 states and D.C. require abusers to turn in any guns in their possession.” Domestic Shelters

Several weeks after the Title statement, my student entered the gym jumping up and down like she just won a title fight. She explained, “I got the son-of-a-bitch! I got him. He will never control me again. I was in the grocery store last night and seeing me, he strutted up, all arrogant like he was. I took my stance and I knew, man, I knew he could sense the difference in me. I was ready to kick his ass and he could detect it.

As he approached, I said nothing. I maintained my stance and watched him walk by. As he did, he said, “I can shop here too you know. You don’t own this place.”

I frkin loved it. Now, lets get on with the training ladies.”

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Paid leave for sexual and domestic assault survivors

The provincial government is considering paid work leaves for victims of sexual and domestic violence.

Parliamentary Secretary for Gender Equity Mitzi Dean says the province is considering changes to the Employment Standards Act to do so, and says public feedback is now being taken online.

She says victims of domestic and sexual assault need to rebuild their lives.

“I remember when I was an employer of about 20 professional people just a few years ago, when one of my team members came to me on a Monday morning and told me that she had been raped on the weekend. Someone had put the rape drug in her drink on the weekend. She wasn’t able to be productive at work, she needed time away,” Dean says

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Sexual harassment at work, a teen’s perspective.

“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.”

This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”.

Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to deescalate but also to have an emergency button to call security.

I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training when repeated appeals for improved security were ignored by hospital management.

“Sexual harassment was most likely to affect women, with four per cent saying they had experienced unwanted sexual attention in the workplace, compared to fewer than one per cent of men.”

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19% of women (surveyed) report workplace harassment.

sexual assault at work

“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.” This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”. Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to deescalate but also to have an emergency button to call security. I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training … Continue reading

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Crappy childhood? Didn’t we all?

There are crappy childhoods, then there are traumatic ones. We need to move on. You were raised by bigots, but you got over it. Your parents were/are racists. You are not. Write them out of your life and move on. You were physically abused as a child. Now you are an adult. Don’t perpetuate the behavior with your own children or those of others and move on. “A lot of people do have tragic childhoods. But you know what? Get over it.” Phil McGraw But what if you can’t? What … Continue reading

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Male aggression. Controlling it…female style with defensive skills.

Excerpt from “Wyoming Secrets.” Female defensive skills. Penelope and Rebecca are at a dance club with their girlfriends, enjoying a girls’ night out. “While eating, two guys came over and asked them to dance. Between mouthfuls, Rebecca said, “Thanks fellas, but no, this is a girl’s night out, maybe some other time.” The men persisted, trying to coax at least one of the women to join them on the dance floor. The foursome’s refusal seemed to fuel the-would-be suitors and they kept on and on until finally Rebecca stood up. … Continue reading

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Women, can you defend yourself?

Women. Can you defend yourself against an attack? Would you? The “J” Team series portrays women struggling with violence. The characters share their successes, failures and overcoming fears and apprehensions through emotionally griping dialog and physical skills. The agents’ physical and emotional responses to antagonists draw the reader to the protagonists’ techniques and style used to overcome adversity. Jessica, Rebecca and Elisabeth encourage readers; to leave abusive situations, to change their environment and to accomplish their goals and dreams. Jackson and Jason exemplify supportive colleagues, comfortable with their sexuality/masculinity, exemplifying … Continue reading

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Don’t be THAT GUY. Consent isn’t difficult to understand.

“Canadian law has a broad definition of sexual assault. It doesn’t only include sexual intercourse but also unwanted sexual grabbing, kissing, fondling, and other sexualized activities. And the responsibility for getting consent is, by law, on the person initiating the activity.” Read Hoffington Post on what consent looks like “Ultimately, consent is about communication, verbal and physical. Just taking the time to read someone’s signals, or even to check in verbally and ask if everything is good, is helpful. The burden shouldn’t be placed on the partner to say “No,” … Continue reading

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Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

“Your sister/best friend/coworker/neighbor discloses to you that he or she is having “relationship difficulties.” With a bit more digging, you come to learn these difficulties are actually domestic abuse—psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual — there may even be physical violence occurring. Your heart drops and your anger level rises. You jump into advice-giving mode: This is what you’re going to do now, you say, and you begin counseling your friend on how to leave their partner.” Domestic Shelters. Educate, Listen & Support, Reassure & Remind Read Sue Villilo, CHOICES for Victims … Continue reading

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Sexual violence. Men, here’s what you can do to stop it.

“VANCOUVER — Stephanie Hale remembers jumping up and down and crying tears of joy when she received her acceptance letter from the University of British Columbia. Now, she wishes she had pursued her degree anywhere else.” “The university has been under fire for its response to sexual assault allegations since 2015, when a group of women came forward to say the school had dragged its heels on complaints about a male PhD student. Glynnis Kirchmeier, who alleged she witnessed misconduct by the man, filed a human-rights complaint the following year.” … Continue reading

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