Category Archives: Personal Safety

VIOLENT MEN WON’T CHANGE

Complaining about the violent nature of some men will not effect a change.

Attempting to change a man of this ilk is wasting your time and endangering your life.

Yes, you have the right to come and go wherever you want in a free society.

Theoretically.

That is not the real world.

Please take 40 minutes to view this Chicago PD video for which we paid the fee, and particular attention to 33:00 where Burgess beats the offender.

That is the only thing these men understand. They must learn that if you touch, you will take them down.

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WOMEN YOU CAN EMULATE

The strong woman knows when to push her luck and when to fold. She knows that life requires us to push ourselves if we want to grow and learn; staying stuck in fear will only breed complacency. She takes risks in order to become better-rounded and test her limitations. This woman knows that a lot of our boundaries can be crossed if we jump the mental hurdles first.

As kids, we believe we can do anything because our parents and teachers tell us we can. We don’t have any fear because the world’s programming hasn’t affected us yet. If we fall down and get hurt as a child, we don’t fixate on the event and allow it to grow into a fear. We simply face our fear over and over until we have learned to master it. Kids remain in the present moment because they have open minds. They want to absorb everything life can teach them.

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White. Yellow. Orange. Red. Your new favorite colors.

White, Yellow, Orange and Red.

White

This condition applies when you are by yourself, possibly in the bathtub with a glass of chardonnay. You know your windows and doors are locked and you have zero responsibilities at the moment.

Yes, very few women have this pleasure which is the point. You need to be aware of your surroundings 100% of the time.

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MOM MET HIM THE NIGHT BEFORE. HE’S IN THE KITCHEN

“It starts somewhere. It starts in the home. I know what a mass shooter can look like.

First time I saw him, I was 13. The sun wasn’t even up yet and I was wearing my track uniform. I poured myself a bowl of Peanut Butter Captain Crunch, turned and there he was, sitting at the round pale-blue Formica table reading the newspaper and drinking a cup of coffee.

He was a large man. Wavy hair and beard intertwined with strands of black and white. Blue-blue eyes. A department store Santa. He smiled at me. Introduced himself. I was late for practice. So I told him to wash his dishes before he left.”

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Sexual assailant says he will never feel remorse for his victims.

“I will never have remorse.” Bill Cosby

Bill Cosby, “America’s beloved father figure” speaks his truth and that of far too many criminals of his ilk.

“He said, “my political beliefs, my actions of trying to humanize all races, genders and religions landed me in this place surrounded by barb wire fencing, a room made of steel and iron.”
His victim(s) waited 14 years for his incarceration.
“Cosby, 81, received his sentence after being found guilty of having drugged and sexually assaulted Toronto woman Andrea Constand in 2004.” Charles Mason
“Look down at me and you see a fool; look up at me and you see a god; look straight at me and you see yourself.”

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19% of women (surveyed) report workplace harassment.

sexual assault at work

“Verbal abuse was the most common form of harassment for both men and women with 13 per cent of women reporting they’d experienced abuse in the preceding year.” This is why many hospitals and clinics have conspicuous signs reading, “Violence and abusive language will not be tolerated”. Staff need to be trained in delivering acceptable dialog to deescalate but also to have an emergency button to call security. I taught psychiatric nurses defensive tactics which are usable against either verbally or physically aggressive patients. Their union had requested the training … Continue reading

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Men, what steps do you take to prevent women from being sexually assaulted?

This is often the reply, “Nothing. I don’t think about it.” Here is what the majority of women do…DAILY. The following is an excerpt from Michael Feniello. Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences. “I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you … Continue reading

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