Category Archives: overcoming it and finding courage


Complaining about the violent nature of some men will not effect a change.

Attempting to change a man of this ilk is wasting your time and endangering your life.

Yes, you have the right to come and go wherever you want in a free society.


That is not the real world.

Please take 40 minutes to view this Chicago PD video for which we paid the fee, and particular attention to 33:00 where Burgess beats the offender.

That is the only thing these men understand. They must learn that if you touch, you will take them down.

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Healing will take time and patience. Assessing what went wrong in your abusive relationship can consume you. Don’t do it. Shit happens. We make mistakes and end up with the wrong person.

Changing locations, getting a new job and moving on works. Not immediately, but it does according to many women who have, unfortunately, been in your shoes.

A friend had this experience and did just that; moved, new job etc. but she found she was making the same mistakes, being drawn to losers…again. A female friend suggested she engage in some of the same activities listed below. She gave up on trying and found what she was seeking playing volleyball at the park on a Sunday with girlfriends.

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Sexual assailant says he will never feel remorse for his victims.

“I will never have remorse.” Bill Cosby

Bill Cosby, “America’s beloved father figure” speaks his truth and that of far too many criminals of his ilk.

“He said, “my political beliefs, my actions of trying to humanize all races, genders and religions landed me in this place surrounded by barb wire fencing, a room made of steel and iron.”
His victim(s) waited 14 years for his incarceration.
“Cosby, 81, received his sentence after being found guilty of having drugged and sexually assaulted Toronto woman Andrea Constand in 2004.” Charles Mason
“Look down at me and you see a fool; look up at me and you see a god; look straight at me and you see yourself.”

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