Category Archives: Domestic Abuse

Were you a child in a domestic abuse family?

If yes, then you may find solace in this information. If no, please share regardless as there are thousands of adults suffering from what they believe is their responsibility. “10 falsehoods children with CDV carry with them into adulthood can severely hold them back and need to be unlearned. Here are four, and their corresponding truths.” Exceptional appreciation to Domestic Shelters for bringing this to our attention. Domestic Shelters Ten Falsehoods revealed “It was my fault. I caused it and I should have stopped it.” Children think emotionally, not rationally. … Continue reading



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Profile of an abuser. Is it possible to spot an abusive partner before you get involved?

“…some abusers grow up in households where domestic violence against a family member, such as their mother, was commonplace.” Profile of an abuser Domestic Shelters Profile of an Abuser/Batterer Jealousy (questioning her constantly about whereabouts, and jealous of time she spends away from him). Controlling behavior (I’ve had clients who’s victim couldn’t get a job, leave the house or bathe without his permission) Isolation (Makes partner move away from family and friends so that she depends on him solely for support.) Forces her to have sex against her will (I’ve … Continue reading



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“30,000 Secrets” the first “J” Team Series’ sequel

Jessica, Rebecca and Elisabeth resolve many of their personal issues while working with Canada’s RCMP, the Secret Service and FBI to trace stolen radio active material from a Manitoba facility.




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Finding a Shelter, Domestic Abuse Survivor’s Guide

Our appreciation to Domesticshelters.org for this helpful information. Finding a shelter DO NOT WAIT until your situation disintegrates into this: “Seeking shelter can be a temporary move, to ensure your immediate safety and the safety of your children, or it can be part of a permanent plan to leave your abuser. Shelter may be the first step, followed by transitional, and then, hopefully, new and permanent housing.” As far as money goes, shelters are not hotels and will never charge you. Executive Director Alden Henrickson of the Rape and Abuse … Continue reading



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How to End Your Victim Mindset

Or, as one woman mentioned recently, “I am now my own advocate.” “After someone has been forced to endure unpleasant encounters, she becomes unwilling or unable to avoid such encounters in the future because she believes she cannot control them.” Why domestic violence survivors continue to suffer long after Many of my students have felt this way and it takes months and often years of counselling for a survivor to move to the next step, which is learning defensive tactics. Counselors have told me, “Her past has shown her that … Continue reading



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Alcohol and abuse.

“While alcohol can’t take the entirety of the blame for an abuser’s behavior, Bennett says it’s also incorrect to say they’re not connected at all, either. “You can find plenty of examples of individuals who have been sober for decades and are still violent.” Having sought safety through the Women’s Shelters, counselled on leaving strategies and trained in defensive tactics by me, many angry, drunk husbands/partners blame me for their spouse’s departure. They are incapable of taking responsibility for their behavior and yet, even when inebriated know they will lose … Continue reading



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Are you being abused? Read, share and stop the circle of violence.

“The common depiction of abuse is black eyes and bruises. But, it’s important to know domestic violence can take other forms: emotional or psychological, sexual, financial and/or spiritual abuse.” “We’ve prepared a toolkit to help you understand the various forms abuse can take so you can better assess your relationship and understand your situation. You can download the toolkit here, or by using the gray DOWNLOAD TOOLKIT button above.” Am I being Abused. THE TOOLKIT. Introduction When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to determine if … Continue reading



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LEAVE AN ABUSER. Go with a survival plan & resources.

Amanda at Domestic Shelters advises. “Creating a safety plan before leaving is an instrumental step toward staying safe. As Marylouise Kelley, director, Division of Family Violence Prevention and Service told DomesticShelters.org last September, “If you’re in the midst of a crisis it’s really hard to think straight. Putting a plan in place ahead of time, knowing where things are and having children understand what steps they can take to be safe—those are all things that are best done in advance.” How to formulate a plan “After he was served with … Continue reading



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Abuse victims turned away from shelters, return to abusers.

We can make a difference in our communities by supporting Women’s Shelters to ensure they have adequate space and protection. Shelter staff should not have to go hat in hand to government begging for funding crumbs but be on the top of financial distribution lists for continual support. “In an anonymous survey on DomesticShelters.org, more than 40 percent of the 247 responders said they chose to return to their abuser when they were turned away from an emergency shelter because of a lack of space. “ “Having nowhere else to … Continue reading



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Abuse victims turned away from shelters, return to abusers.

We can make a difference in our communities by supporting Women’s Shelters to ensure they have adequate space and protection. Shelter staff should not have to go hat in hand to government begging for funding crumbs but be on the top of financial distribution lists for continual support. “In an anonymous survey on DomesticShelters.org, more than 40 percent of the 247 responders said they chose to return to their abuser when they were turned away from an emergency shelter because of a lack of space. Domestic Shelters “ “Having nowhere … Continue reading



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