Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

“Your sister/best friend/coworker/neighbor discloses to you that he or she is having “relationship difficulties.” With a bit more digging, you come to learn these difficulties are actually domestic abuse—psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual — there may even be physical violence occurring. Your heart drops and your anger level rises. You jump into advice-giving mode: This is what you’re going to do now, you say, and you begin counseling your friend on how to leave their partner.”

Domestic Shelters. Educate, Listen & Support, Reassure & Remind

Read Sue Villilo, CHOICES for Victims of Domestic Violence

Listen and support unconditionally.

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Our appreciation to Domestic Shelters for their advice to and support of sexual assault survivors.

About lazeejjs

Jonathan McCormick holds a Black Belt in Combat Martial Arts. He is a U.S Marine (Inactive), trained with famed CIA operative Rex Applegate and Ultimate Fighter Champion Royce Gracie and was the director of the Institute of Defense Tactics. He is a former member of the American Society of Law Enforcement Trainers and worked with members of various law enforcement agencies in the areas of suspect control and officer safety. He has written for law enforcement magazines BlueLine ( and Twenty-Four-Seven and has been a guest writer for the Vancouver Province. “Wyoming Secrets”, “30,000 Secrets”, “Santa Barbara Secrets” and The “J” Team Series are inspirational novels which focus on women who feel overwhelmed by the threat of violence in their lives. View the Series
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1 Response to Assault Survivors. How can you help when they aren’t ready?

  1. I never know what to say or how to help so this post is helpful. Besides I believe reading about women who react physically when assaulted is therapeutic and motivating for survivors.

    There is a scene in “30,000 Secrets” where Elisabeth is returning to her pub table from the restroom when a guy grabs her butt. Her reaction!!!!

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