“You are a real bitch, you know that?”
Gloria Steinem’s reply if and when you are called a bitch.
“Gloria a Life” on PBS.
During Q n A a young woman said, “I’ve been told from a very young age that I am too strong, too assertive, too direct. You have to soften your approach and not be a bitch all the time.”
Ms. Steinem offered her advice and the young woman replied, “The next time I’m called a bitch. I will say, Thank You,” with a huge smile and a round of applause from the primarily female audience.
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When you’re dealing with mean people, it is important to stay positive. Whether it’s a stranger, a co-worker, spouse, or any other person in your life, knowing what to say is important. You don’t want to be rude in return, as it could only make the situation worse. Plus, it could irreparably damage a relationship that is important to you. It’s important that you don’t let people be mean to you, though, no matter who they are. By speaking up and coming back with a quick response, you’ll let them know that the behavior isn’t acceptable. If you have a person in your life who tends to be rude at certain times, remember these comebacks to use next time. These comebacks could stop their behavior on the spot, and they could help them be nicer in the future, too.
1. I’M SURE YOU DIDN’T INTEND TO SOUND SO RUDE, BUT THAT’S HOW IT’S COMING ACROSS TO ME.
Disagreeable people sometimes don’t realize they are being rude. When it comes naturally to them, it may be useful to point it out. Then, they will likely think about how they are speaking to you or what they are saying. This way, they know how they are making you feel. Plus, they’ll know that you are trying to still be nice and positively interact with them.
2. I CAN SEE THAT YOU’RE HAVING A BAD DAY.
If you say this, they’ll start thinking about why you think they are having a bad day. They’ll realize that the way they are speaking is giving you a bad vibe. Sometimes a simple comment like this is the perfect comeback. The person you say it to may start speaking more nicely when it is pointed out to them. Another way this comeback could work is that it could make the person believe that you said it because you are worried. This could soften their personality a little when they are communicating with you.
3. WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVE FOR ASKING THAT? Sometimes people ask rude questions just to make you uncomfortable. They may want to embarrass you in front of others or they just want to hurt your feelings. When you are in this position, ask the person what their motive is. By turning it around and asking them this question, you’ll likely get your point across. They’ll know that you are not interested in discussing it. Plus, if others can hear the conversation, it could shame the person who asked. Even rude people don’t want to be called out in front of others.
4. I’LL CONSIDER WHAT YOU SAID, BUT I’D LIKE TO END THIS CONVERSATION NOW.
Even if you don’t agree with what was said, saying that you will consider it should normally do the trick. This way, the unfriendly person understands that you don’t want to talk about it and will hopefully stop. Then, you can forget it ever happened or you can take some time to consider it later. Keep in mind that most rude people say things that aren’t true and have a goal to hurt you. If you choose to consider what they said, don’t take it too literally. If you find that there was some truth to what was said, you can make a change. On the other hand, if there wasn’t any truth in it, just move on and forget it. Then, the next time that person brings it up again you can answer honestly. You would simply tell them that you considered it already and you don’t want to talk about it again.
5. I’M FINISHED WITH THIS CONVERSATION.
Sometimes, you just have to be blunt. If you’ve tried reasoning with the person and tried other comebacks, it may be best to end the conversation. It isn’t as rude as ignoring them, but you’re letting them know that you aren’t going to be talking anymore. There is no use in arguing or going back and forth, so end the conversation and move on.
6. HAVE A GREAT DAY!
This is another way of ending the conversation. As you’re ending the conversation or walking away from them, a positive statement is the way to go. They can’t be angry at you for telling them to have a nice day. Plus, you’ll be able to walk away as a better person.
7. THANK YOU.
If someone makes a rude comment about you, just thank them. While you aren’t appreciative of their rudeness, it’ll let them know that you heard them. When you don’t react in the negative way that they were likely hoping for, they’ll be disappointed. Most people won’t keep trying to get under your skin if they see that it isn’t working. So, when you give this simple reaction, they may let the conversation go.
8. I’M TRYING TO EMPATHIZE WITH YOU, BUT YOU’RE MAKING THAT DIFFICULT.
When someone is spiteful, it could be because something difficult is going on in their life. For this reason, reminding yourself that they could be having a bad day may help. If they cross a line, however, it’s important to speak up and let them know. Let them know that you are trying to be understanding, but that you are struggling with their rudeness.
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